People often ask our older kids what it was like to be homeschooled through high school. When I was at a convention a few weeks ago, I asked Sierra, one of our graduated daughters, if she would be willing to take questions from parents near the end of the workshop.
She agreed–but I’ll be honest: I was a little worried about what she would say when asked the tough questions from new homeschooling parents. After all, the homeschooling years were not all easy. A lot of them were (and are) hard. Our kids have traveled the country with us as we plant homeschool co-ops, speak and do the ministry God has asked us to do.
That often means 12 hour days in the van, breakdowns (of about every sort), attitude adjustments and yes, “memories.” I wondered, what would Sierra say about all this? Like every other mom, I often wonder how much therapy it will take for our children to recover from their childhood. Can you relate?
2007
As I expected, when Sierra was asked about her childhood, her answers were real. She did’t sugar-coat it. I made mistakes. Yes, there were good days–but there were also hard ones. That’s life, isn’t it? Nothing that’s worth doing in this life is easy.
I saw this post on Sierra’s page today. It made me smile – and then, it made me cry. When it’s all said and done, when homeschooling is over the books are closed for the last time, I want my kids to remember that we loved them. That we championed their childhood by giving the opportunities while we taught them the value of family and home and others.
Sierra and me in 1994
The relationships you are building with your kids matter, busy mom. Long after you close that math book, by God’s grace, you will still have a relationship with your child. Nurture their spirit along with their mind. It’s worth it.
Here is Sierra’s post.
A man asked me a few weeks back, “What was the greatest thing that you could take away from homeschooling through high school?”
Without hesitation I answered: “my relationships.” We definitely put the “school” in “homeschool.” But we also put a fair amount of “home” in it as well. They say “home is where the heart is.” For us, that means Jesus, family and friends. I look back on my life, and that’s all I see. My cup overfloweth with beautiful memories of time “well wasted” spending hour after hour with family and friends- usually at the same time. I look back and think to myself, “Man. My family really knows how to LIVE.”
Rummaging through old childhood photographs today (you know, deleting the ones I took of my shoes, random piles of books, millions of leaves- things I somehow thought I’d want for forever) I found it to be bittersweet–-but mostly sweet. Nothing but smiles, fun (and most importantly) lots of LOVE. My childhood is full of nothing but beautiful, happy memories.
Life has had it’s hardship. But it’s becoming more and more evident to me that when Jesus said, “I have overcome the world,” he really meant it! And when he said, “Take heart,” he meant that, too. “BE ENCOURAGED!” Life was meant to be lived to the fullest, enjoyed with brothers and sisters as we live our purposed lives for our Heavenly Father and Creator! The thirst, need and hunger for relationships that is in us, is there for a reason. God put it there because it’s important to HIM. He loves and cherishes us.
If what I’ve tasted of relationships and love is but a sample of what’s to come in this life… eternity is looking better and better. Thank you, Jesus, for your perfect example of sacrificial, selfless love.
I can honestly say, after undergoing all levels of life with my family (including being stuck in a van for weeks on end) I am SO blessed! I would have it no other way.
“I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus!” Philippians 3:13
When it’s all said and done, it’s worth it.
Plant with the harvest in mind,
