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God Meant it for Good: When Bad Things Happen to Good People

Have you ever been unjustly treated?  Lied about? Betrayed?  Joseph experienced all these things.

Today I am going to do something a little different and take a devotion from our Firmly Planted Family Study Guide, Book 2. We were reading this with our children recently a few things jumped out at me that I want to share with you. The point of reading this story and this particular Scripture is to instill into your children that even though people might mean something for evil, God can use it for good.

Of course the children have their “small” testimonies of being treated badly… but to them, it’s big!  When I stop and think, a hundred instances of injustice can come to my mind… times when I have felt wronged, unjustly accused, even lied about!  This is why the story of Joseph is so powerful.

Genesis 50:20 says, “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good.”

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This week’s story is a good one.  The passages are Genesis chapters 42-47. A little context: this is the continuing story of Joseph and his brothers.  Here we find his brothers on their way to Egypt.  Remember, Joseph was sold by his brothers into slavery (!!) and now his brothers are going to Egypt for food because they are experiencing a famine in the land. They don’t know that their brother whom they sold is now a prince of Egypt—one of the most powerful rulers in all the land!

I’ve been blessed over the years to read God’s Word with our children.  I’d suggest that if you’re not already doing that, now is a great time to start.  If you want, you can grab your kids and snuggle up and listen to this via the audio link above.  Listen carefully! You might remember that Joseph was Jacob’s favorite son and that Joseph’s brothers sold him to some traveling slave traders. The slave traders eventually sold Joseph to a man named Potiphar.  Potiphar worked for Pharaoh in Egypt. Many amazing things happened to Joseph while he worked for Potiphar, some of them were bad, but some of them were good. Eventually, Joseph found favor with Pharaoh and was placed in his household.  This was an incredible outcome!  Joseph was now in charge of most of Pharaoh’s business.

Think about it. Here Joseph was enslaved and thrown into prison. It looked like God had abandoned him, but Joseph kept trusting on the Lord, no matter what his circumstances were. He trusted God.  He believed God’s promises were true.

Because Joseph believed that God loved him and because he obeyed God, he was able to prosper eve though suffering.

A little more background: There had been a famine in the land for two years and the future didn’t look any better for growing crops. In result, Joseph’s father, Jacob, sent ten of his sons to go to Egypt and see if they could buy enough grain to feed their families. Jacob had two sons by his “favorite” wife, Rachel.  Joseph was the first, and Benjamin was the second.  Because Jacob believed Joseph was dead, he didn’t want to risk anything happening to Benjamin, so he kept Benjamin at home with him while the rest of his sons traveled to Egypt.

The 10 brothers made their request known to Pharaoh’s manager who happened to be their brother Joseph. Many years had gone by so the brothers didn’t recognize their brother at all. However, Joseph knew immediately that these were his brothers. He kept his identity a secret and he tested his brothers by saying he thought they were spies and not traders. Finally, Joseph insisted that they go home and bring their brother Benjamin when they returned. This was Joseph’s true brother, also born of his mother Rachel, and Joseph longed to see him. When they returned with Benjamin, Joseph played a few tricks on them, testing them further until they believed he would surely imprison them or make the slaves.

Finally, Joseph could stand it no longer and broke down, revealing that he was their long lost brother Joseph who was now an important man in Pharaoh’s empire.  His love for his brothers remained.  Surely this love came from God.  By himself, Joseph would have had every reason to hate his brothers—and instead, he loved them.

So why is this important to us?  You see, sometimes we are placed in difficult situations. Joseph had the authority to make all those brothers be imprisoned, killed, or enslaved but instead he made sure they had the food they needed to take care of their families. Sometimes, we are put in difficult situations or might be treated unfairly by someone. We need to know that just like Joseph, God always has a plan for those who love Him. Even the evil schemes from our enemies turn out to be used for our own good when we trust God.

That doesn’t mean we will always get what we think we need. It means that God, who sees all things, is working behind the scenes for our good.  He can be trusted.

No matter what you are facing today—you can trust that God is working things together for your good. Pray and talk to the Lord abut whatever is troubling you today.  Then, rest.  Let God do the work that only He can do.

You are loved!

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Heidi St John Firmly Planted Family Devotional For All Ages

Chores and Children

Are you training your kids to help around the house? Several months ago, I put a chore-chart from my friend Toni (The Happy Housewife) on Facebook at The Busy Mom and went about my day.  I forgot about it, actually.  I thought that moms would love this handy chart, and that people would think, “Yes! Chores for children!”

Boy was I wrong.

I was amazed at how much controversy this little chore-chart generated. Before the end of the day I was called “abusive” and “lazy” for requiring my children to be active participants in our home. And we don’t even live on a farm!  My children are working inside our house doing the things that people who live in houses do: they are cleaning, cooking, tidying.. and yes, they’re playing too.

Children who are trained to work around the house are not only a blessing to their parents, they are a blessing to everyone they stay with!

Here’s the thing, busy moms: teaching your children to help around the house is based on a Biblical principle! Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he won’t depart from it.”

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If you’re still reading, I’d like to just throw out some ideas for chores that might be age appropriate for your children. Did you know that even toddlers, around the ages 2 or 3, can actually help you around the house? At that age, they actually like to help you! So, take advantage of it while they like it. They can pick up and put away toys. They can help you unload the dishwasher. They can dust with a feather duster or a rag.

One mom got really upset that I would “force” my toddler to work.  She was asking why I would let my toddler do the dusting. I’ll tell you why. Because she likes doing it! She feels so grown up when she can follow me around the baseboards with her little rag. Is she really helping me? Not really, but I’m training her to help me later and she enjoys it.

My husband and I want our children see that they are part of a whole family and that we work together as a family. We teach this concept starting when they are old enough to walk.  Your toddler can help you by putting their dirty clothes in the clothes hamper, they can move clothes from the washer to the dryer, especially if you have those front loaders. Saylor, our three year old, is learning how to put her clothes away. She loves to wipe the cabinets down.  At this age, she is a huge help to me mostly she is joyful about helping.  It makes her feel important to be helping mom.

If you have a preschooler, they can start helping you with those things, plus they can help vacuum, take out recycling, they can set the table.

Your kids, as they get into elementary school years, they should be cleaning the microwave, collecting garbage around the house and cleaning the bathrooms. They should be helping you around the house based on things you have taught them.  If you need help in the kitchen, teach your children to help you. The investment of your time will go a long way in the days to come.

Of course, as they get older, children can start doing more. Our daughter Summer is ten. She loves making simple meals and helping me with the laundry. She’s our furniture-pusher-arounder—she loves to rearrange all the furniture (all the time, actually.) I’m always coming home to a different living room. But, I want to encourage her to do it, because at some point she is going to have her own home and she’ll need to know how to take care of it.

Get your kids working, busy moms! If you’ve got a middle schooler who is 12 years of age and up, they can be helping with almost everything around the house.

Don’t let anyone tell you that childhood is just for playing. It is for playing yes, but it’s also for preparing.  If you’ll do the hard work of preparing your children to have their own home someday, they’ll thank you for it.

Train ’em up!

Heidi St John Firmly Planted Family Devotional For All Ages

Broken: Beauty from Ashes

I want to write about something that’s deeply personal to me as I think about my life in relationship with the Lord and the grace and mercy that He has poured out over me.

In 2 Corinthians 12:8-9, it says, “Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me.  But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

I don’t often share my testimony and I won’t take the time to do it right now, but when people ask me to use a word to describe myself, I often use the word broken. I’m a mess, really. Memories linger but there is little time to process them. I’m not sure I want to process them.  Maybe this is why my husband says I have “battered friend” syndrome.  I’ve been hurt. It’s easier to be a friend on Facebook than it is to manage real friendships off-line.  Friendship is messy.

Laundry abounds, dinner calls, I’m often short-tempered. I find myself frustrated with things that carry no eternal significance. I often forget how blessed I am.

The liar is tricky; he whispers, “What do you have to offer? Look how broken you are.”

Broken. Yes, it’s the voice of the enemy of my soul. It is my burden to carry.

Am I “broken?” Yes, yes I am. I must confess that I often have more questions than answers. I wonder if my children will be broken like I am broken. In my heart, I know they will though… because really, we are ALL broken.

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That is why we need a Savior. Jesus came into the World to give us new life. To bring healing. To mend the broken places in our hearts. As I get older, I am learning that being broken is its own kind of beautiful. You see, being broken means I don’t have to struggle with the pain and perfectionism (although I sometimes do) and being broken provides a freedom all on its own.  After all, there can be no glass houses for broken people. There’s no need to compare brokenness either, for we are all broken. Being broken means I’m in need of constant repair, so I find myself at the feet of the One who heals.

There is strength there.

Broken people carry a beauty all their own, and broken people who know they are redeemed and bought with a price are radiant with a light that transcends the pain of this life. Very little in this life compares to the beauty that comes with brokenness.

The beauty that comes from ashes is available to you, just like it’s available to me.

I claim brokenness today.  I claim it to find healing and peace; I claim it to exchange ashes for beauty; to have the one thing that I can’t have without being broken—I claim it for grace. Grace in my brokenness, healing for the broken.

Grace for others.

Beauty for ashes.

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Heidi St John Firmly Planted Family Devotional For All Ages