4 thoughts on “When You Can’t Be the Mom You Want to Be

  1. I enjoyed reading this post. Thank you for sharing!

    For as long as I can remember, I have always strived to do everything even if I was exhausted and needed a break. Now, with being a Wife and Mom of three (4, 2, and 7 months), I find myself feeling that I have to be an expert at everything or else people will think I am a horrible person, Mom, wife, etc.

    My relationship with God has been growing deeper recently and I find myself not caring as much if I am not perfect or if I am not able to do everything. God has been showing me lately that I need to just have the relationship with him and focus on taking care of my husband and kids. He has shown me this by allowing me to get a crazy eczema rash that was so itchy beyond belief (I could barely think straight, let alone do my normal routine around the house) and then our family all got sick (and it is taking about three weeks to go through everyone). I know God has been reaching me to just relax during this time and spend time with my husband and kids. So what if all the chores don’t get done? What is more important: the chores or spending quality time with each other (and ultimately doing what He wants me to do)?

    What has helped me with my struggle with being “perfect” at everything is disconnecting my facebook account. Facebook can be a great thing, but I found it not to be good for myself. It made me feel like I was a failure because I couldn’t keep up with what everyone else was doing.

    Reading God’s word, praying, and spending time as a family has greatly changed my attitude in life.

  2. Thanks for this article. I have five kids and have been fighting the fatigue of mono for over a month now. I definitely feel like I am not doing enough most days. I am so thankful for my church body, which has brought me numerous meals, and my homeschool community, which has helped with watching kids and laundry. I have found that I benefit from humbling myself and asking for (and accepting) help. I tend to think that I should do it all, and I feel like having help makes me somehow “less”, but that is not the case. This is definitely a season for letting go of my pride and realizing how blessed I am.

  3. I needed this today. I am recovering from a mastectomy after receiving a diagnosis of stage 2 breast cancer at the end of April. My school year began last fall with my dad’s death and ended with my diagnosis. We are military and were supposed to move to our new duty station in September. But my diagnosis has changed everything. Our summer isn’t looking anything like I had planned and I have cried tears of disappointment. But I also know that in God’s providence, we are where we are supposed to be and my prayer is that I will live this well. I want to be drawn closer to Him and I want my family to see Him in ways we had never imagined.

  4. I just want to say that reading your post was like reading my very own life at the moment, only this is baby #6 for our family..my husband has been so helpful in doing the chores that I normally handle as well as his part. School has been hard as well, but like you, I’m reminded that it is only for a season. For all the comments that I have read prior to mine, about sickness, and fatigue. I want you to know that you are Loved, never alone and prayed for. I pray for complete healing and restoration for all of you. Blessings to you all❤❤

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