50 thoughts on “No One Told Me It Could Be So Hard: 3 Things Every Struggling Mom Needs to Know

  1. Thank you for this! I read this blog at the absolute perfect time. After my husband came home from work tonight, I turned our three boys (ages 4 and under) over to him so I could have a few minutes of quiet time to myself after a particularly exhausting day, and that’s when I read this post. Thank you so much!

  2. I just want to say how much I appreciate your honesty. You know, as a mom, you’re not alone, but sometimes it is good to be able to physically see you’re really not! I am struggling right now. I have 3 girls ages 8, 10 and 11. I have homeschooled from the beginning. The two oldest fight constantly. Wears me down. Having trouble with them keeping the rooms picked up. I know that is a never ending battle. I can handle messes. I won’t tolerate nastiness. Just in a weary state right now. Like most moms, I can go on and on. Just want to thank you for what you do. God always know what we need when we need it. You are a blessing. This mom thing is not an easy road, but I know the rewards will be well worth it. Just hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel at times. You help us to see it. Thanks!

  3. Thank you so much for these words. Today was a hard, hard day. I needed this article…and I needed to be reminded to give myself grace during this process! Thank you!!!

  4. Thank you so much for your transparency. You have been such an encouragement to me. For the wordy girl I can be, it’s hard to find the words right now. God bless you and yours.

  5. Thank you, Heidi! I’m a “new” “old” mom–babies are 2 and 6 mos. but I’m 35. We hope to have more. We hope to homeschool. My family growing up was wonderful, but we fell into the label trap. My mom made mothering her whole life and had nothing she wanted to do after we left home. It’s been hard for her. I wish this message of grace had been more prominent for that first generation of homeschool mothers (both my mother and mother-in-law are of that group). They were pioneers and heroes in my eyes. I hope that I can follow your wise advice.

  6. Great read! I can relate to the different seasons, as I have 4 kids ages 1 year to almost 21 years old. One type of craziness or another ensues everyday in our household. :). No matter how long I’ve been a parent, I still rely on God’s grace everyday! Parenting is sanctifying! I very much needed the reminder to do something for myself. I definitely need to work on not neglecting to keep my own identity outside of being a mom. 😉

    1. You just have to be more creative, then. I completely understand it’s a battle, but we all battle something in this realm. You can find something for you, though, if it’s done when she’s sleeping. So many crafty type ideas on pinterest to do with things you have on hand or can recycle (low cost). Writing costs nothing. Singing costs nothing. Exercize, volunteering, baking, thrifting, decorating, gardening. Maybe you could find another mom to do a kid swap with. And the more kids you have, the harder it gets to find time/money/space/energy… You can do it!!

  7. Thank you! I feel blessed more and more each day seeing my kids grow under my care. My patience is tried each day. I pass with flying colors by God’s grace! I am continually praying to be a good steward of my 4 children. Ages 20, 4, and 21 months old twins. I love your blogs. So encouraging. God bless you more!

  8. Oh goodness how I needed this. Today has been particularly grueling. With two kiddos under two years old and a husband in medical school, it seems most days I can’t come out on top. Reminders like these are little drops of grace in my bucket. 🙂

  9. Thank you for the encouraging words of openness and truth. I have kids ranging from 27 to 5 and grandkids that are 10 years old to 4 years old. Mothering is not easy.

  10. You are such a blessing ! Thank you for passing down your wisdom and advice . You are such a wonderful encourager and have such a way with words 🙂 thank you
    Thank you !

  11. This was great. Thank you for putting it all in perspective. I’m a writer too. I have a novel coming out in May. I’m self-publishing it. A story God put in my head and nine years in the making. All I can say is that I’ve been busy with having my two blessed daughters, ages 3 1/2 and 5. They keep me grounded and running around. But your right, motherhood is only for a season. I hope my novel can touch people’s lives, because writing is what centers me in the midst of joyful chaos. Keep writing these blogs and stories. You are God’s hands and feet to helping many mothers. God Bless.

  12. Thank you for the great message….as I sit here wondering what have I gotten myself into getting ready to have our 6th child (hopefully TODAY!) Our kids range from almost 18-here any day. It is definitely different with each child and each season. We just launched our first, the oldest boy this last year and that has been quite an experience! Thank you for the reminder that we need to give ourselves a break, stop labeling and nurture our spirits! Motherhood is a HUGE part of who we are but not everything – I kinda get lost in it sometimes and forget I can do more than dishes and diapers! I love your honesty and transparency – I agree we need to be real about this and love, come along side and encourage each other, not label and judge!!! Thanks for all your great posts! Now – back to labor – I HOPE! A few more years of one of my kids thinking I wear a cape too(-:

  13. Love this! Seasons…complete with sunshine, sunsets, balmy weather, freezing rain and hurricanes! Remember that when you’re snowed under in a storm, that tomorrow the world will be a dazzling white, covering and sanctifying the ugliness of yesterday’s mistakes! Ah…motherhood… 🙂

  14. Heidi,
    No kidding I just wrote in my journal that I can not “parent away” unwanted behaviors and I need to start praying for The Lord to convict their hearts. I spent some time on my knees. Thanks for the timely post. I always enjoy how real you are in your writing and in person.
    🙂 Holly

  15. My three-year old is an aunt, too, Heidi — five times over! Thank you for the straight-talking post. You are so right about the fact that every age and stage of motherhood has its own special challenges. Thankfully, each stage has its own sweet blessings and rewards, as well.

  16. This spoke right to my heart! Thank you.
    Can you and Jay write one about fatherhood? I think really invested dad’s need to be encouraged as well.
    Praying for your family.

  17. This was beautiful! My favorite part is where you say your toddler still thinks you wear a cape. What a blessing! I need to remind myself of this bc my 3 children (4 yr old twins & 19 month old) are so special to me and an amazing gift from God. They love me no matter what…I need to learn from them.

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