Author Archives: Heidi St. John

About Heidi St. John

Heidi has been married to her husband Jay since 1989. Together they have seven children and three grandchildren! The St. Johns homeschooled their kids all the way through high school. Heidi is the the author of seven books, host of the popular podcast "Off the Bench," and the founder of MomStrong International, an online community of women learning God's Word and how to apply it to every day life. She and her husband Jay are also the founders of Firmly Planted Family and the Firmly Planted Homeschool Resource Center, located in Vancouver, Washington.

Need gift ideas? Here are my PERSONAL favorites!

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Many of you have asked about the things I recommend on Amazon—so here they are, all together in one place!

There are some great ideas for gifts this year, Busy Moms! I’ve seen a lot of bloggers writing posts with good deals, so I really didn’t feel the need to write one more of those.  While these are competitive prices, I have chosen these products to share because they are recommendations based on personal experience.  Everything on this list is something I or someone in my family loves and would heartily recommend.

{Affiliate links are included in this post.}

Family Gift Ideas

Roku Streaming Media Player – We canceled cable four years ago and never looked back.
BPA Free Ice Pop Molds

Ticket to Ride Game
Settlers of Catan
Funprint Drawing Book + Stamp Pads!

Gifts for Kids

Jesus Storybook Bible
Jesus Calling: 365 Devotions for Kids
Let’s Read and Find out Science Series (many books in this series, I linked to the search for them as opposed to one specific title)

Magic School Bus, Complete DVD Set
Liberty Kids, Complete DVD Set
Where on the Earth is Carmen SanDiego, Complete DVD Set

Little People Lights & Sounds Nativity Set
Little People Animal Sounds Farm
Learning Resources Teaching Cash Register
Dyson Toy Vacuum
Big Bucket of Dinosaur Action Figures
KEVA Structures 200 Plank Set
Kid K’Nex
K’Nex Building Set
Lincoln Logs
Jumbo Cardboard Blocks
Plasma Car
Bazoongi Bouncer Trampoline
21 Piece Art Drawing Set
Sony Headphones

Gifts for Women

The Busy Mom’s Guide to Daylight, by Yours Truly
The Busy Mom’s Guide to Romance, by Yours Truly!
Becoming Myself, Embracing God’s Dream of You
 by Staci Eldridge

Fred & Friends Mister Tea Infuser
Instant Pot: 6 in 1  Programmable Pressure Cooker
Cuisinart 77-7 Chef’s Classic Stainless Cookware Set
Rachel Ray Cookware
6 Quart Oval Slow Cooker
Thermal Laminator

A Few of Heidi’s FAVES for 2015 – Including ESSENTIAL OIL favorites

Spark Naturals Essential Oils (no membership required, great prices, great oils) use code THEBUSYMOM for 10% off!
Greenair Spa Essential Oil Diffuser

Hot Booties Foot Warmers
Neck & Shoulder Heating Pad
Mrs. Mug by Dayspring
Faith by Chuck Smith – perfect for reading with your spouse  (I read it with Jay this year!)

Gifts for Men

For the DIY Guy – Magnetic Stud Finder
For the Golfer – Medicus Dual Hinged 7 Iron
For the Techy Guy – Portable Headphone Amplifier

Lord, Help Me be More Like My Little Girl

Lord, help me live in such a way that my children learn to trust You!

Tonight, as I tucked my almost five-year old into bed, her prayer was simple:

“Dear God, please stop this abortion. Just cancel it. It’s wrong to kill babies. You can do it all by yourself. You don’t need any help—because you’re that big and that good.”

We weren’t expecting such a big thought to come from such a small girl…and a quiet hush came over the room. She trusts Him.

He IS that big, that good. We are facing many problems in our world today. Saylor’s prayer reminded me that I serve the King of Kings. The ONE who spread the heavens out like a canopy over the earth. The Lord of “heavens armies.” The One who made the seas and all that is in them.

He says our days were ordained for us before a single one of them came to be. He says we are to trust Him.

One day soon, He WILL make things right.

“Into His capable hands, I must commit the future of my children—and of all the broken things around me that I have no control over. My role is not to worry. It is to obey. It is to trust.”

Into His capable hands, I must commit the future of my children—and all of the broken things around me that I cannot fix. My role is not to worry. It is to obey. It is to trust. Lord, I do believe. Calm my mother’s heart. Help my unbelief!

Help me be more like my little girl.

 

—–Be Still My Soul—-
1. Be still, my soul: The Lord is on thy side;
With patience bear thy cross of grief or pain.
Leave to thy God to order and provide;
In ev’ry change he faithful will remain.
Be still, my soul: Thy best, thy heav’nly Friend
Thru thorny ways leads to a joyful end.

2. Be still, my soul: Thy God doth undertake
To guide the future as he has the past.
Thy hope, thy confidence let nothing shake;
All now mysterious shall be bright at last.
Be still, my soul: The waves and winds still know
His voice who ruled them while he dwelt below.

3. Be still, my soul, though dearest friends depart
And all is darkened in the vale of tears;
Then shalt thou better know His love, His heart,
Who comes to soothe thy sorrows and thy fears.
Be still, my soul; thy Jesus can repay
From His own fulness all He takes away.

4. Be still, my soul: The hour is hast’ning on
When we shall be forever with the Lord,
When disappointment, grief, and fear are gone,
Sorrow forgot, love’s purest joys restored.
Be still, my soul: When change and tears are past,
All safe and blessed we shall meet at last.

Text: Katharina von Schlegel, b. 1697;

The Perfect Storm: ISIS Moves On a Weak Church

The perfect storm: are your spiritual roots dug down deep?

It’s raining outside, in my little corner of our great big world. The wind is howling.  The leaves are everywhere. It’s that time of year. As I sit in my window, I can’t help but notice one tall tree in the corner of our yard that refuses to yield to the wind and the rain. All the other trees are bare now, but this one, this one stands defiant in the face of what is bound to be a losing fight with nature.

Most of the yellow leaves on the giant maple are hanging on for dear life now, trying to delay the inevitable. One day soon, they won’t be able to hang on anymore and they’ll give up, falling to the earth in an endless cycle that will repeat itself again this time next year.

As the rain continues to fall, my eyes are drawn upward to the enormous, rhythmic sway of the tallest trees. It’s unsettling. Many of the big trees on our three acres fell last year as the rain soaked ground loosened their fragile root systems. The forest can be unforgiving. They didn’t have a choice but to fall under relentless downpours. Years of erosion took their toll as the mighty trees buckled and fell, taking smaller trees with them.

Trees with shallow root systems don’t survive very many winters. They can’t. Even big trees, no—especially the big ones—need strong, deep roots. Without them, it’s only a matter of time.

 

Storms reveal the strength of our root system.

 

We’re not so unlike those trees. If we’re going to survive the storms of this life, we need strong, deep roots, too. But as I listen to the news and see the barrage of cyber-bullets flying back and forth between people who should know better, I can’t help but sense that the trees in my back yard are not the only things with fragile, shallow root systems in the late autumn of 2015.

The church’s roots are shallow, and the storms around us have unearthed a problem that, if left untreated, threatens to undo us from the inside-out.  Years of relentless spiritual downpours have left us weak and vulnerable. Rather than shore up our root systems with the truth of God’s Word, we have given ground away to the erosion of culture, tossing aside ages of time-honored truths that we have stood on as a people for generations. Many of our tallest “trees” have fallen victim to the downpour of secular progressivism that has laid waste to our churches in recent years. Like you, I have watched as many pastors and other Christian leaders have exchanged the truth of the Gospel for a “more convenient” truth.

It is the perfect storm. Weak church… weak nation. We are a nation in spiritual crisis, and our weakness is providing the perfect storm for evil to spread.

“So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. 16 Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. 17 Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do.” Ephesians 5:16-17

We must be careful, because as the Apostle Paul warned, the days are evil. ISIS has found a soft target in Christians today. We are a biblically illiterate generation, profoundly weak in our knowledge of the almighty and His Word. We’ve forgotten who God says we are supposed to be: holy, set apart. And so, instead of falling to our knees in anguish over our sin and admitting our need for divine answers, we’re doubling-down on made-up theology that portrays Jesus and His great love for mankind in two extremes: passive and foolish or selfish and uncaring about human suffering.

In the wake of last week’s awful terrorist attacks, instead of turning to God, we’re turning on each other. If ISIS ever had a golden opportunity to strike at the heart of God’s people, now would be that time.

Today, on social media, for all the world to see, God’s people are fighting over which kind of compassion is more “right” … the kind that says “protect the innocent here” or the kind that says “protect the innocent there.” Every Christian with an opinion and a Bible seems set on hurling verses at other Christians. Social media is on fire. Mocking images flood our screens and numb our senses and what are we doing? We are reacting in our flesh. Me included.

We are being driven by anger and fear, and it’s exactly what the enemy wants. Yes. The enemy. Satan. He knows exactly what he’s doing and we better wake up and pay attention. The war we are in is a spiritual one. ISIS is not our enemy. ISIS is a tool of our enemy. Nothing more, nothing less.

Now is not the time to lob Bible verses at each other over a virtual fence! Now is the time to hit the floor on our knees. Collectively. This is war—and every person who claims the name of Jesus is enlisted in it. We  need to come to the table together, first in prayer and then with resolve to act how God wants us to act. How will we know what that is if we do not pray for wisdom? Oh, how we need wisdom for these times we are living in. Human wisdom simply will not do. The wisdom we need can come from no place other than from God Himself.

“If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you.” James 1:5

We need every Christian writer, pastor, teacher, parent, journalist and thought leader to come together in solidarity against the evil that is waging war at this moment against us. Our conversations must extend far beyond the fear that drives us.

We must seek the Spirit.

Now is the time to sink our root systems deep into the rich soil of the Word of God. Now is the time for unity—and the kind of unity we need is supernatural. We must not give in to fear and anger. We must beg God for His wisdom. A generation hangs in the balance.

10 A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. 12 For we[d] are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.

13 Therefore, put on every piece of God’s armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. 14 Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness. 15 For shoes, put on the peace that comes from the Good News so that you will be fully prepared.16 In addition to all of these, hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil.17 Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

18 Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.

19 And pray for me, too. Ask God to give me the right words so I can boldly explain God’s mysterious plan that the Good News is for Jews and Gentiles alike. 20 I am in chains now, still preaching this message as God’s ambassador. So pray that I will keep on speaking boldly for him, as I should.”

Ephesians 6:10-20

 

 

 

Not a Person

“Not a person.” That’s how the abortion industry views the unborn.

I run a page on Facebook called The Busy Mom and of course, I blog here. As you might imagine, most of the my readers here are mothers. As a mother, abortion breaks my heart. More now than ever, as I have witnessed, like many of you, what is now the undeniable truth about the barbaric practice of abortion in this country.

This week, the latest videos exposing the barbaric practices of the abortion industry were leaked to the public. The reporting on them, however was deafeningly silent.

There was a time in this nation when blacks were considered less than human. They were treated as animals, not people. They were bought and sold. They had no rights—until the abolitionist movement grew larger than the slavers and those who were sympathetic to slavery. When people started to listen to their consciences and act on what they knew was right, things started to change.

From 1934 to 1945, Hitler’s policies decreed the the Jews were inferior to the German nationals. He stripped them of their rights. His “final solution” and evil dictatorship resulted in the Holocaust, which claimed the lives of more than six MILLION Jews and Jewish sympathizers. The Jews had no rights in Hitler’s Germany—until a coalition of brave men and women decided “ENOUGH!” and put an end to Hitlers reign of terror.

Today, another holocaust is happening in our nation. The latest videos from the Center for Medical progress lay out in heartbreaking detail what is happening every day in this nation to our unborn. The videos are unedited and long, and frankly, hard to watch. Most of the footage comes from an abortion conference.

Not a Person

At one point in the videos, Dr. Landy, one of the abortionists, tried to lighten the conversation by inserting a little humor into the workshop. “I remember one time,” she revealed with laughter in her voice, “an eyeball just fell down into my lap—and that is gross!” A roar of laughter.

This is what passes for a joke at an abortionist conference.

The unseeing eyeball of a baby falling into the lap of the woman who just crushed her skull.

In another video, abortionist Dr. Amna Dermish, speaking to actors posing as a fetal tissue procurement company, said “My aim is usually to get the specimens out pretty intact.” Dermish then admits that she will sometimes use ultrasound guidance to convert a 2nd-trimester fetus to a feet-first breech presentation: “Especially the 20-weekers are a lot harder versus the 18-weekers, so at that point I’ll switch to breech.”

Usually when we hear the word “breech,” we’re talking about a woman who is going to have a C-section. These people are talking about turning a baby to deliver it feet-first in order to keep it’s head intact for the purpose of selling it’s brain.

And heaven just weeps. When have we become so calloused that have such little regard for the suffering of these babies?

We’ve changed the wording to make ourselves feel better. We talk about these babies as if they were not people … just tissue. Surely by now, we know that these are living, feeling human beings. Surely by now, we have seen 3D ultrasound and have seen the horror that abortion is.

We are without excuse.

What can you do?

—you can refuse to vote people into office who support abortion
—you can share the truth about abortion on your own social media outlet
—you can support centers who care for mothers AND their babies
—you can volunteer your time to support causes that support life

As a Christian, I will continue to pray. I will continue to speak out on behalf of these precious ones who have no voice unless we give one to them. It’s time to end the holocaust that is abortion.

Miracle

#endabortion #abortionismurder​ #defundplannedparenthood​

Read more:

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2015/10/27/planned-parenthood-doctor-appears-to-admit-to-partial-birth-abortions/

http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2015/oct/27/planned-parenthood-doctor-says-she-will-strive-int/

http://www.mlive.com/news/ann-arbor/index.ssf/2015/10/video_prompts_activists_to_cal.html

Will You Be The Mom Who Refuses to be Sidelined?

Something sad and fascinating is happening to parents in this post-modern era. We’re being lied to. We’re being told that we aren’t necessary—and what’s worse, many moms today are buying the lie! After all, they say the “village” can do it better.

Slowly but surely society is shutting parents out. Moms today are being told that elementary school aged kids can make their own decisions on everything from birth control to which gender they want to be. What used to be regarded as a parent’s responsibility is now seen as an infringement on the child.

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Simple tasks like looking at my 13 yr old’s medical records now require effort and persistence and even permission from my 13 year old. If we want to stay in the race and finish it we must refuse to be sidelined. MomStrong moms possess a willingness to endure rather than become a passive onlooker in the lives of their children.

When the world says “give up” or “it’s not your business,” I challenge you to stand up for the sake of your child. Go ahead and risk being annoying. Be the mom who knows the names of your child’s friends. Be the mom who asks the hard questions and loves unconditionally.  Be the mom who refuses to be sidelined and instead guides her child through every stage of growing up, including adolescence.

Your children don’t need the government or the school system to teach them about the big things in life, they need their parents.  Moms, you are stronger than they say you are. You are more capable and more invested. You’re your children’s mother, and kids today need their mothers to be all-in.

They need the wisdom and love of their parents, and they need a mom who is one hundred percent invested.

Be that mom!

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Dear Mom Who Isn’t Feeling Very Positive About Another Positive Pregnancy Test

What you are doing is worth it, precious mother!

I’lll never forget the moment when I learned I was pregnant with my fifth child. Yes. We knew how “that” happened—but this, this was not in our plans. I stared at that pregnancy test in disbelief. Surely the Lord saw where we were financially! Surely He knew how overwhelmed I felt already, how inadequate.

Another baby meant we would have to step up to the next size car and it meant people would start staring at us in Costco.  I’m ashamed to admit that I was embarrassed by my fifth pregnancy. I wasn’t thinking of the blessing—I was thinking of the burden. I was worried about what other people would think.

I wasn’t sure I had the energy for another baby—and I since I was struggling with the four children I already had, I knew for sure I didn’t have the patience. Can you relate?

It’s a good thing God’s strength is found in weakness. He met me there in my weakness, a sobbing, hormonal mess on my bedroom floor. I cried out to Him—literally—and He met me there. Just like He will meet you.

My fifth baby is now a wonderful, twelve year old blessing. God used our fifth child to teach me new things about His unfailing love and provision.  God’s ways are so counter to the culture! Embracing God’s promises brings life.

We now have seven children and two grandsons (our second grandson is due in December!) My child-bearing years are over. As I look back over those busy, busy years, my heart is filled with gratitude.  I’m grateful to have had the opportunity to have seven children under our roof at one time. I’m glad I got over being stared at in Costco. And I’m glad God’s mercies really are new every morning.

Believe God’s Word, precious mom. Your children are God’s gracious gift to you, whether you “planned” them or not.

When the Kim Davis Dust Settles, Will People See Jesus?

A few days ago, I wrote a post on Facebook after seeing the movie “War Room.”

I grew up in pain. I know it when I see it—and I saw it tonight.Tonight, I sat in a movie theater full of strangers…

Posted by The Busy Mom on Sunday, 6 September 2015

As you can see from reading comments on the post,  I took a lot of heat for my comments about Kim Davis. I get the impression some of my readers think I am against Kim Davis. Quite the contrary. I’m praying for her. She has gone to jail without bail for her stand in disobeying a court order. That takes courage. I applaud her courage.

But as I think back on other men and women in the Bible, like Joseph, Esther and Daniel—I see that they who gained favor from pagan kings through their exemplary service—not from disregarding the law of the land.

To me, this is not a question of whether or not Kim Davis is legally in the right position. She has the right, certainly, to do what she has done. She may even have a good case. But to me, this a question of whether or not it serves and benefits the cause and kingdom of God.

I believe SCOTUS was unlawful, even renegade, for creating a law and bypassing Congress. Three branches of gov’t have now become slaves to the judiciary branch. This was never what our founding fathers intended.

However. Daniel only disobeyed the King when he was told he could no longer worship God (thou shall have no other gods before me). Esther stood up against the murder of her people (thou shall not kill) and Joseph ran from the boss’s wife, who would have happily committed adultery with him. (you shall not commit adultery)

Daniel won the favor of a pagan king by his exemplary service.

I see these people willing to die (Esther and Daniel) and being willing to go to jail rather than commit adultery (Joseph). I believe it’s worth going to jail to stop the slaughter of the innocent. I will vote according to my conscience every time. I’ll speak the truth in the public square. I will not be a party to murder. I will not cower in fear—because I serve the Captain of Army of the Lord of Hosts! He has not given His people a spirit of fear. (2 Tim 1:7)

But when the dust settles over our dry and thirsty land, I want people to see Christ in my life. Right now, what do unbelievers see? They see woman breaking the law (albeit an immoral law) that they do not believe to be immoral. As far as I can tell, she’s stoking the fire, not squelching it.

Brothers and sisters in Christ—this may be hard to hear, but we do not live in a Christian nation. We live in Babylon. Our President, our Congress, our Judges, do not serve the living God. I live as a Christian woman in the midst of a secular government. The laws in my native country, the USA,  reflect this reality, from abortion to gay marriage. Christians have become the minority in this nation because we have not lived the way God would have us live. We have not obeyed God in our private lives.

We are not unlike the Israelites, who danced as close to the edge as they could and then begged God for mercy when they were led away into captivity.

We live in a nation that has gone from condemning sin, to quietly condoning it to celebrating it. Sadly, the Christian community has been part of it. Like Lot, I pray that God’s judgment would be spared because of the millions of Americans who do love and follow God’s Word—but today, even pastors are unbuckling the belt of truth and laying it down on the altar of mercy. We value being accepted by men above God in many areas of “Christian” life—but I wonder if we have forgotten that we cannot expect the world to understand the ways of God.

We’re trying, but we’re cherry picking what we want to “enforce” with this secular culture. For example, did Kim Davis ever sign a marriage license for two people where one was a Christian and the other was not? That was wrong, too, by God’s definition. She should have refused to condone those marriages, too, right?

We don’t get to pick and choose which parts of the Bible we’ll stand on. We are to live, and love, by the whole thing.

Several have said Noah was like Kim Davis. How? Because he was mocked too? Noah broke no law. He listened to and obeyed God when God told him to do something that seemed absurd. Now, maybe that’s what Kim Davis is doing. But something in my spirit is troubled by her actions. I do not believe it’s winning anyone to Christ.

In the end, only faith in Christ and obedience to His Word will affect the way this nation has embraced and even now celebrates what God clearly calls sin: homosexuality. But honestly, we have to obey every part of God’s Word, not just the ones that are in our faces. Tax evasion, adultery, indifference to the suffering of orphans and the unborn… we have a lot to atone for, and it must begin with Christians on their faces in repentance.

As we have so painfully now learned, “hope and change” will never be found in a president or a political party. It will only, ever, always be found in Jesus. Let’s talk about Jesus. Let’s talk about His grace and mercy and forgiveness. Let’s talk about the wages of sin and the gift of God which is eternal life in Christ.

What, men and women, what is the best way to follow God in a country that is not godly? These are the days of Joseph. The days of Daniel. If your job violates your conscience, then quit. Do what Joseph did and serve the Lord with integrity in your place of employment—and if that employer asks you to be complicit in his sin—RUN.

If and when the government tells you it is unlawful to worship God, worship Him anyway. Live in such a way that even ungodly courts cannot find fault with you because you serve the Lord.

Let everything you do speak to the love and mercy and forgiveness of God.

Some may trust in horses, some may trust in chariots, some in a political system, some in a President, some in homeschooling, some in medicine, some in good works.

Be we, the children of God, trust in the name of the LORD. Our whole lives, not just part of them, need to speak of his love.

We need to show our own need for Jesus. To be Christians in the midst of a broken generation will take repentance and mercy.

To be a Christian in the midst is to stand alone if necessary—but I pray we will stand together on the things that really matter. We will not be effective until we fall on our knees and admit that there is none righteous, no, not one. May our hearts break for what breaks His.

When the dust settles from this latest us versus them battle, I wonder: will people see Jesus? If not, our stand is for nothing.

Let's talk about Jesus!