Parenting can be a lonely business. Especially where parenting teens in concerned.
If you would have told me twenty-two years ago that one of my bubbly, bright-eyed, adorable little babies would ever be disrespectful or rude to me, I would have said, “not a chance.” After all, my stellar parenting skills and unconditional love would prevent it. Right?
Wrong. My “stellar parenting” skills are sometimes lacking. I’ve experienced a toddler meltdown and a sassy teen. I’ve been humbled by parenting. It’s the thing that brings me to my knees more than any other thing.
Dr. James Dobson once said, “Parenting is not for cowards.” He was right. Today, parents are challenged to know every app that can drag their kids further into the Internet. I know moms who sleep with one eye on the computer and another on the television. We’ve been charged with taking care of a generation of kids who have virtual friends—and some of them are no good.
Parenting isn’t for cowards. It takes a certain bravery to say “no” to that sleepover or that cell phone that your teen wants but which you can’t afford or which they do not deserve or need. It takes bravery give direction to your teen when it feels counter-cultural.
There is a certain “lull” in cyberspace where mothers of teens are concerned. We don’t want to share to much for fear of embarrassing our kids (this is commonly referred to as ‘over-sharing.’) We don’t like to admit that our kids, whom we love deeply, can be a source of pain for us. It can be lonely.
I’ve come to believe that mothers are called to a sort of “quiet” perseverance—especially during the teen years. If this is you, be encouraged. Parenting is tough—even for great parents of great kids! Toddler taming has challenges to be sure, but as we get older, it can be more challenging.
There is something about adolescence that can test a mom’s resolve. Just how strong am I? Parenting teens will help you find out.
I have struggled through days when I did not know if I my adult children would still be my friends. Funny, now that two of my kids are on their own, I still struggle with this same question when it comes to my younger ones. I wonder how long I can be strong—and yet I know that now is not the time to sit on the bench. Too much is at stake.
Stand your ground, precious mom. Stand guard over your child’s heart. Persevere because your kids are worth it.
Tired moms offer some of heaven’s best prayers. Keep them coming. Parent with perseverance.
The best is yet to come!