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Delight-directed Learning for ANY Homeschool — Part One

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The delight-directed learning method has been the joy of our homeschooling for several years now. Are you familiar with the term? We happened upon it purely by accident when my son was in third grade, and we kept falling off our well-organized lesson plan.

Has that ever happened to you?

It might look something like this:

The next lesson in your geography curriculum takes you on a tour of Canada. After spending a wonderful day of learning all about the climate, the lesson plan leads you on a trip down a stream in British Colombia, where you discover the architect of the animal world, the beaver. Suddenly your child is obsessed with beavers. He wants to find books at the library, watch videos, draw and paint beavers, and spends much of the day building beaver dams and lodges out of Lincoln logs. At lunchtime, you find him gnawing a raw carrot the way a beaver would gnaw a tree trunk.

The next day, when you are ready to move on to the next country, your curious and creative child just wants more time learning about beavers.

What’s a devoted homeschooling mom to do?

You could just tell him how sorry you are that there is no more time for learning about beavers because South America is next on the lesson plan. Or, you could put the lesson plan away for a few days and enjoy the delight your child has found in this interesting creature.

The above is a true account from our own homeschool. In this case, we moved on to the next thing on the lesson plan, but when it happened again a few weeks later (this time with Mexico and butterflies), I took notice. In fact, after we finished our intense study of the Monarch butterfly, we went back to Canada and the beaver.

Our homeschool has never been the same.

Perhaps you can relate. You might be the homeschool mom who just moved on. Or maybe you are the one who stopped and relished in your child’s curiosity for a day or two (or ten). There is not a thing wrong with either option, but today, and for the next few months, I want to take some time to help you see the possibilities of adding delight-directed learning to any homeschool. To YOUR homeschool.

This 5-part series will give you some simple tools and methods of observation you can use to just let loose and allow the interests and passions of your children to dictate what they learn, for that is the basic definition of delight-directed learning. It may be something you will completely fall in love with and want to do all the time (that is exactly what happened to us), or perhaps you will be able to find one day a week (or month) to devote to delight-directed learning. I believe you will enjoy it, and I know your kids will.

This first method I want to share this month is simple — just talk to your kids.

Or maybe just pay attention to what they talk about most. What piques their curiosity? If your children speak endlessly about whales or Ben Franklin or knights or princesses, begin there. There really are very few topics that cannot be developed into an educational experience. We often take these topics and create unit studies.

A unit study can last for a week, a month, or even a year. You are in control of how long you spend on a topic. This is a great way to homeschool all the time, but if you’re not comfortable doing that, use this method for a nice break now and then when you are following the lead of your student, or for a summer study.

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That should get you started. No fear, mommas! Don’t be afraid to put away the lesson plan and follow the lead of your students. Even if for just one day. You may surprise yourself and forget to bring it out again!

What do you think? Will you give it a try? Have you already?

Join me again next month when I’ll share another easy to way to integrate delight-directed learning into ANY homeschool.

Heidi St John Homeschooling Guide to Daylight

18 Things I’ve Learned in 18 Years of Homeschooling

I’ve been homeschooling for 18 years.  Where did the time go?

It really is a wonder that my children are doing as well as they are when I consider my abilities or rather, disabilities.  In all seriousness though, God has taught me so much about what really matters in my homeschool.  Here are eighteen things I have learned in 18 years of homeschooling.

1.  Education is more than academics. As a person who was highly prone to making an idol out of education, this is no small statement. Honestly, you can be the most well-educated, even the most intelligent person and yet lack the character to impact the world for good.

2.  Parents are more than qualified to teach their children. In fact, research has shown that motivation is more important than education. Think about it. Who is more motivated to ensure that your child receives the best education possible? A teacher of 30 + kids or a parent?

3.  God fills in the gaps. I have seen this over and over again. Sweet mamas, trust Him. He is working all of these chapters in your life for good. Breathe and trust!

4.  Much can be learned from homeschool parents that have gone before you. Listen, learn and consider other ways of doing things.  Don’t be afraid to try new things.

5.  Don’t copycat. On the other hand, blindly following isn’t good for anyone. Learn from others and adapt curricula and teaching styles to fit your unique family but don’t copy another family like some algebraic formula. There is no one formula for the perfect homeschool.

6.  Just when you think you’ve got this thing…things change. Well, we wouldn’t want to grow complacent or overly self-assured, would we? If something isn’t working, change it. That is what eBay is for, no? Read, learn, pray, grow. If something is clearly not working in your homeschool, it is okay to change things up – even before the end of the semester/year.

7.  Learning issues aren’t disabilities, they are differences. God makes no mistakes. People who learn differently were made that way by God.  “So the Lord said to him, “Who has made man’s mouth?  Or who makes the mute, the deaf, the seeing, or the blind?  Have not I, the Lord?”  Exodus 4:11  Teach to your child’s learning style and keep working on the weaknesses.

8.  Character-training is a subject. Make time for it. You’ll be glad you did.

9.  Play is a subject for young kids. Kindergarten should take about half an hour. Read, love and play, play, play!

10. Interest-led learning is still learning. Text books are not the only way. Be brave – think outside the box!

11. Prepare for the teen years. Deal with your teens in an understanding way. What were you like when you were that age? A bit of compassion goes a long way.  Oh, and the changes of adolescence can begin before the teen years.  Be prepared!

12. There is extraordinary power in prayer. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.”  Philippians 4:6

13. There is extraordinary power in the Word. Too busy for Bible study? Remember your goals – the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.  (1Timothy 1:5) And this, “So then, faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.”  Romans 10:17

14. Observe and point out the impact of world views early and often. Teach your kids discernment.  If you don’t know what a world view is, find out!

15. Teach apologetics earnestly. The Christian faith is under attack. May I dare to say that we are no longer in a post-modern culture but an anti-Christian one? Teach your kids the reason for their faith. “Come now, and let us reason together, says the Lord.”  Isaiah 1:18

16. Don’t compare. There is always someone that appears to have it all together. Yet, all of us have some trial or tribulation. God is weaving together your unique story for a great purpose.

17. It is unlikely that you will ever ‘get it all done’.  What ever that even is!  You may, however, get everything that you can done and that is okay!

18.  Not to discourage you, but your house will never be clean! <grin>

What wisdom have you gained from your homeschooling years?

For more homeschool encouragement, visit Marianne at her blog Abundant Life.

Heidi St John Homeschooling Guide to Daylight

Time to Start Again

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You ever find yourself at the tail of end of a New Year’s Eve, pondering the exiting year, and wishing you had a DO OVER?

*Yes, my hand is in the air, too.*

2013 may have begun well, but it certainly didn’t feel like it ended well. I find myself floating through this year change listlessly and desperately needing to regroup.

Time to Start Again

While many take time at the beginning of a new year to make resolutions or bucket lists, (and I have done both,) I find the clean calendar page full of possibility, hope, and best of all – a fresh start. Every year I take a little bit of time to evaluate the previous year and take some notes for the new year. Whether you had a great year or you’re glad 2013 is gone, maybe you’ll benefit from a reboot, too.

Leave the past in the past…but learn from it.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” (2 Cor. 5: 17, ESV) 

No matter how I failed in the previous year, the above verse reminds me that in Christ, I have been made new; I am no longer subject to my human faults and failures, but to Christ. In him and through him I am continually becoming a new creation. I must remember that it’s not anything on do on my own in my own strength. To let go of the old me and embrace the new me, I must remain in Christ!

As I look over the past year, I take assessment but I don’t dwell on it. I can’t change past anyway. What I can do is learn from it so that I can do better in the new year. So before anything else, I take last year to the Lord in prayer. I ask Him to show me what I need to change, and I leave it at his feet. I gotta let it go. I can’t take it with me.

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Write out some plans for the New Year.

“Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.” (Prov. 19:21 ESV)

I could make all sort of plans for the new year but I may or may not be able to see them through if I don’t first ask the Lord if those plans are things that he wants me to do. In fact, yes, I’ve done that, too (making all sorts of plans without running them by Him first!)

Before I convince myself that this is the year that I’m finally going to be the perfect mom (and then fail again), I need to ask God what things HE wants me to work on. Am I doing what I can to fulfill the purposes God has for me? If not, what reasonable, specific, changes do I need to make to serve the Lord how he wants me to serve? Do I need to spend less time on the computer, more time at home, make cleaning more of a priority? What do I need to do? What’s getting in the way? What do I need to change? Lord, open my eyes and let me see what needs to be done. 

 Take one day at a time.

“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” (Matt. 6:34 ESV)

Yes, the new year is indeed a new, fresh, clean, lovely start. But I can’t live the whole year out all at once! I can only deal with today in today. So often I’m ready to make all those specific changes right now, but I can’t. Likewise, if I try to start working on everything I need to change all at once, I can quickly become overwhelmed and burn out.

Lord, what do you want me to start with first, what should I do today, this week, this month? Change happens one step at a time, one habit at a time, one sacrifice at a time. Prayerfully, I consider what goals I need to set for this week and month, and which things I need to start working on now. Then it’s time to start doing those things.

We can change; we can start again.

“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” (Phil. 4:13 ESV) 

So often this verse is used like a victory charge, focusing on the “I can do all things” portion more than the “through him who strengthens me” part. But look at the verses that come before it — Paul is telling us he has learned the secret for being content and thriving in life regardless of the circumstances. That secret is that we *can* do all these things because of *Christ* – He gives us the strength to do them. In our own strength, we don’t succeed at overcoming the challenges of life very well, but in His strength we can overcome them and be content and thrive, too. 

*So whether you’re looking at 2013 and realizing you need to spend more time with your kids, or more time working, or more time on cleaning…

*Or whether you’re looking at last year and feeling convicted to serve more, give more, or love more…

*Or if you’re evaluating 2013 and finding your quiet time and prayer time lacking because you need to rise earlier or feeling like your attitude is suffering because you go to bed too late…

Whatever it is that God is putting on your heart to change this year, he can and will equip you to make those changes when you look to him for wisdom and strength. The fact that we may have failed in some areas last year is moot because 2013 is gone, and all we can do is start over today for 2014.

Do you need a reboot for the new year? Are you not sure where to start? Start by taking it to God and asking him where HE wants you to start. Be specific. And then just do it: start again.

For more posts about how I evaluate year changes, browse my New Year posts on Classic Housewife.

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For when they just can’t seem to focus…

New schedule's, new routine's. Two tips to help our families ease back into the routine of school and learning!

At the beginning of a new semester I find my busy boys tapping pencils, staring out windows and taking F.O.R.E.V.E.R. to get assignments done. Can anyone else relate? In our home we do a lot of hands-on learning. But there are times when they need to buckle down and focus on a math or spelling lesson. When we sit down each week to work on a writing assignment it seems like they always get antsy and distracted.

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What’s the cure?

A Little Bit of Grace

After carefree days, mustering personal discipline can be tough. It might take our kids some time to adjust. Recognizing this, helps this busy mama have patience as we instill the habit of our new routine. I just have to remind myself that we’ll get there!

A Little Bit of Movement

When they start to lose focus and get fidgety, our temptation is to urge them to buckle down and focus. Our cajoling takes up valuable time and the results, well, may be less than satisfactory. Might I offer a simpler method? One that helps release stress instead of create it? Let them move! Brain research has revealed time and time again that it thrives in an environment that promotes movement. Just giving them a quick movement break – say to run from one end of the house to the other or do 20 jumping jacks will work wonders to kick-start their concentration.

In our home when a child is zoning out or when they hit a mental block, we call for a “brain break” and let them get up to move! We simply pull out one of our brain break cards, take a quick 2-4 minute break before we tackle the task at hand again. And everyone agrees that it is far better than one of mom’s lectures!

If you are looking for some easy to implement brain breaks in your home and want to read some of the research behind why they are so effective, The Busy Mom recommends The Ultimate Guide to Brain Breaks. It’s on sale this month for only $4.99 if you use the coupon code, NEWYEAR.

Heidi St John Homeschooling Guide to Daylight

New Year’s Hope for a Weary Homeschool Mom

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“I’m done!”  Have you ever been there? It’s the kind of “done” that makes everything more frustrating.  The dishes pile up. The laundry calls your name—and your husband’s needs become an annoyance rather than a precious priority.

Anyone?  Can I get a witness?

Well today, I am in the book of Galatians, chapter 6, verse 9. The reason why I decided to go back to this verse (we’ve gone over it a couple times before) is because I know how challenging the holidays can be for busy moms. There are so many things that weigh on us and so many things that we feel like we need to be doing. It seems like the holidays just ramp up stress for us.

If you feel “done” this New Year, you can find encouragement in God’s Word.

Galatians 6:9 says, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”

I love Paul’s encouragement not to give up. I don’t know about you, but I’ve had a tough week: unexpected things have happened: computer glitches, spilled milk on school assignments, siblings squabbling, and spilled coffee. Yesterday, I re-heated my tea three times before altogether forgetting about it in the microwave.

One thing after another seemed to go “wrong.” Feelings of insecurity and failure invade my New Year’s resolutions before I have even finished my list!  All these things, I must confess, eventually led me to questioning my sanity.  Sanity is a must-have for every busy mom, right? I looked in the mirror and this tired, overwhelmed face stared back at me.

Christmas vacation is almost over. I’m a homeschool mom, so no school bus is coming to take these kids off my hands, no nanny, no babysitter, it’s all me… 24/7. Sometimes I want to give up. After all, I ask myself, “what mom in her right mind chooses to be locked up all day with little people with no hope of reprieve in sight?” Who would be nutty enough to do that?

Uhh…me.

Here’s why: I am trying to “plant with the harvest in mind” like every mom who is raising her kids to love and follow Jesus Christ. When I am wiping juice off the wall, cleaning the toddler’s potty, or instructing the children for what feels like the millionth time on how to finish cleaning the kitchen rather than quitting after the dishwasher is loaded, I need to remember the WHY of all of it. At the end of the day, mothers are not “just” training and teaching their children. Moms are  investing in the next generation of doctors, legislators, lawyers, policemen, bank tellers, construction workers, missionaries, pastors, and mothers who will, by God’s grace, invest their lives in their children.

My own daughter is now a young mother herself.  Watching her with Noah reminds me of the value that raising a family holds. It’s wonderful to begin passing the baton to the next generation. It’s a reminder to me, and to you, that we are investing in our children because they are what is really going to matter at the end of our lives.  They’re worth it.

It goes by fast—don’t grow weary. Persevere, busy mom.

Plant with a harvest in mind.

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Heidi St John Firmly Planted Family Devotional For All Ages

What is the Goal of Education?

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Have you ever wondered why education is such a big deal? Today I’m going to take you to a small verse in Luke that has implications as to why and how we educate our children. Luke 6:40 says, “A student is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher.” Wow, that’s powerful stuff.

Do you remember when you were in school? Most of us were not homeschooled ourselves.  We attended school away from home where we were discipled by (that’s right) our teacher. We don’t often think of education this way, but by the end of the day, education is all about discipleship.

Jay and I have been saying this for years as we’ve been speaking around the country.  We did not realize the depth in the spiritual battle in the field of education until we got involved in ministering to homeschooling families.  I believe it is because education is much more important than we often realize! We are talking about the hearts and minds of the next generation of children. The Bible says in Luke 6:40 that when a child is fully trained, he will be like his teacher.

Now, is this condemnation to those who’ve chosen not to homeschool? Absolutely not, but it is a reminder that it matters who teaches your children. You see, discipleship is the goal of education. Christian homeschooling should not only be about teaching the ABC’s. Yes, academics are an essential component in homeschooling, but the foundation and power of homeschooling is found in the quiet resolve of two parents who are committed to teach their children to be fully devoted, mature followers of Jesus Christ. That comes first.

Now, can you do that without homeschooling your kids? Yes, I believe you can and we’ve seen parents do it successfully. But, the neat thing my husband and I realized about homeschooling our children is that the amount of time it gives us to disciple our children is second to none. Homeschooling has given us time with them that would have otherwise been given to a teacher, or a school system.

Understanding this is a crucial component of success in homeschooling. It is the key that unlocks the door to longevity in home education. The truth is, the best schedule and most efficient run home won’t keep you from burning out if you don’t know why you’re doing what you’re doing.

So, let me just ask you, busy mom, why are you raising your children? What is your goal for raising children? Most moms I know wouldn’t take on homeschooling in a million years without a driven desire. So, what’s driving you?

The answer to this question is going to define the education journey of your family. If you choose to homeschool your children, keeping the heart of homeschooling alive with the desire to impart wisdom, not just knowledge, to your children will help keep you going on the days when you wonder what in the world you got yourself into.

Once you truly know what education is about and decide why you are doing what you’re doing, you can begin to make a plan that will help you make the most of the homeschooling years, one moment at a time.

Part of the reason why I have been talking about legalism for the last couple of days, it is to remind parents how important it is for us to love each other. We should love each other regardless of the education choices we make for our children.  I wonder, as we wrestle these issues, are we loving each other?

The Bible says they will know we are Christians by our love. I want to encourage you to remember that the goal of education is discipleship.   As we raise our kids, let’s remember that passage in Luke: “When your child is fully trained, he will be like his teacher.”

That’s something to consider as parents—our children will be a lot like us.

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Heidi St John Firmly Planted Family Devotional For All Ages

Holidays: Real-Life Learning in High Gear

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One of the perks of homeschooling is getting to set your own schedule.  As a girl, my eyes would take on a special shine this time of year as I would bask in getting to take the whole month of December off from formal studies.

But while we packed away the math and spelling books, my mom knew a little secret that I’ve now discovered walking in her shoes: the learning never stops. 

It is a special time to cook – learning measurements, following directions and watching chemistry at work!  It is a time to learn project management as you plan for the Christmas meal and pull your kids into the conundrum of figuring out how everything will be ready at approximately the same time.  There is crafting and decorating.  As family comes together there are fresh character lessons to learn as children interact with elderly relatives, work through conflict with cousins, etc.  And as believers, this is a special time to quiet our hearts and enter into the wonder of the incarnation -God coming down to us!

To make the most of this special real-life learning/real-life living, here are a few things to keep in mind.

Slow Down

I can hear the groaning from all you Busy Moms…  I know this can be a busy season, but the more we can take time to slow down and simply BE with our children the better.  That’s one reason why we shelve the curriculum.  I don’t want to miss out on the special moments with my kiddos.  And let’s face it – it’s far easier to just do things ourselves sometimes than to slow down and bring our kids into the process.  Resist the urge to sacrifice memory building training moments with our children merely for the sake of efficiency.  When we are rushed, everyone suffers.

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With all of the *life* that is happening, there are myriads of learning opportunities for our children.

Have older kids?  Why don’t you give them a budget and have them plan a Christmas party for their friends.  If that doesn’t work, why not assign them Christmas Eve dinner and walk them through planning a menu, making a grocery list, setting an elegant table, etc…  Have them help you plan the travel itenerary if you are heading out for the holidays.

With your younger one’s pull them into whatever you are doing.  Yes, it slows you WAY down.  But they are so eager to help.  Cooking and cleaning alongside you not only draws you closer and begins to teach them important life skills, but it also helps hone fine-motor skills, counting and sorting skills as well as developing a strong work ethic.

Pull some special books together to read, learn about Christmas traditions around the world, make a fun craft together than can double as Christmas decor.

The opportunities are endless!

Embrace Spontaneity 

As busy as we may get, always remember that we are never too busy to be with our children.  Embrace the spontaneous opportunities to serve together, learn together and laugh together.  Embrace the opportunity for discussion and pointing our children to the God we love and worship.  Slow down and soak up the opportunities that come your way!

What kind of real-life learning opportunities do you experience this time of year?

Heidi St John Guide to Daylight