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Hope Floats



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Did you know that hope floats? It really does.

Romans 15:4 says, “Such things were written in the Scriptures long ago to teach us and the Scriptures gives us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God’s promises to be fulfilled.”

The ESV says it this way, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.”

Hope bubbles to the top when everything else is sinking. God says that His Word was given to us so that we may have hope.

Looking at His heart for our marriages, God’s heart is that our marriage would strive, and God cares about all those little things that we take for granted, including romance. God’s heart for your marriage includes quiet nights away from your kids, moonlit conversations about your hopes and dreams, and a partnership that encompasses every area of your life.

You know what, busy mom? There is no formula. I think that’s important to make that clear up front. I wish more Christian women were talking about how hard it is to stay married in this culture and to raise a family that will love and follow after the Lord Jesus.  I really wish I had a magic formula to give to you. Five steps for a troubled marriage really is just a myth, although it would sell books. But instead of offering you a formula, I want to encourage you to love your husband as God has designed you to love him. Be real about your marriage; the good, the bad, and the fragile.  It’s not bad to be fragile. Part of the blessing of being fragile is that it forces you to fall on your knees and talk to The One who knows exactly what you need.

I should know…I have been there. I’m the mom who watches the school buses drive away and wonder what those other moms do all day. My husband has watched me have total meltdowns, and he has helped remind myself that this homeschool journey that I am on is as much about me as it is about our children.

I want you to know that homeschooling IS hard, marriage is hard, parenting is hard.

Do I ever want to give up? I always tell my husband, only every other Tuesday.

There are two things that keep me going on the days that I want to give up.  The first thing is that I am learning is how absolutely loved I am by the Lord. The second thing is how my husband and I are learning about the eternal investment we are making in our children.

These two elements have been crucial to the success of our marriage, especially where homeschooling is concerned. On the days when I need encouragement, we assess our partnership and vision, then we continually yield our plans to the Lord. It’s part of being one flesh.

Thank God that His mercies really are new every morning. We can find encouragement together as we discover how loved we really are. And how even a busy mom can make time to nurture her marriage.

It’s not as hard as you think, but it’s more important than we may ever realize.


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More Than Making Babies


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Hi moms!

You may have seen my Tuesday post that shed just a little light on the physical battle I’m facing—so the next few podcasts were recorded ahead-of-time.  In fact, I’m hospital right now, and my sweet husband is helping me write this Friday’s post.  My surgery went well, and now I’m trying to get on the road to recovery.  (aka: I’m on drugs.)  🙂

It’s been a rough day—painful for sure but also humbling.  Nothing like needing help just to go the bathroom!  I’m so glad Jay has seen me at my worst. Why?  Because it strengthens us when we walk through deep water together.

The longer I’m married, the more I appreciate the many sacrifices my husband has made for me.  I want so much to bless him!  God designed marriage to be an amazing union between a husband and wife.  In our culture, we’ve lost much of the appreciation and wonder that God gives to the marriage relationship.  Have you ever thought about how much God loves us?  Marriage is a wonderful place to see God’s love for people.

Sex between married people is one example of God’s care for His creation.

Certainly it was within God’s creative ability to make procreation a dull, necessary part of making sure the human race continued.

Genesis 2:24 says “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Did you know that God has given us the ability to enjoy sex for the sake of enjoyment alone? The world seems to have stolen this from the Christian community and so we either hear about it being an awful, wicked thing or we hear about it being something that has absolutely no boundaries on it at all.

But did anyone ever tell you that sex is only for making babies? I hope you realize how far from God’s heart that is. God’s heart is that you enjoy sex with your husband. His design is infinitely more wonderful and loving toward us than we could ever comprehend. I love the imagery, of scripture: the Bible says that the two will become one flesh, ONE FLESH. The language itself suggests intensity, infusion, and pleasure. It also shows that God’s heart in uniting a husband and wife was meant to be this way, on purpose. God wants us to be one flesh.

For this reason, a man shall leave his parents, and they will have babies? Is that what God said? No, He said they will leave their parents and cleave to their spouse and become one flesh.

Sex is about so much more than making babies. I truly believe that God meant for sex to provide us with a respite from the stresses of this world. And a healthy, intimate relationship serves to strengthen the bonds between a husband and wife. Sex gives physical pleasure, and release, and wonder of wonders the most amazing thing we can think of happens through sex: NEW LIFE is created! Every time I think about this amazing gift, I’m speechless.

Be speechless—enjoy married life!

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