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Planning a Family Road Trip? 10 Things You Need to Know Before You Hit the Road

10 Things You Need to Know When Planning a Family Road Trip

In 2009, our family took our first cross-country road trip. Since then, we have logged almost 70,000 miles together as a family, criss-crossing the United States many times.

For our first trip, we purchased a class “C” RV that our daughter found on Craigslist. It was built in 1987 (a good year, since that’s around the time we graduated from high school, right?) and had a low odometer reading of about 30,000 miles. At 27 feet long, it wasn’t too long. The reason we bought this one was two-fold:

  1. It had two sets of bunkbeds in the back instead of a master bedroom.
  2. It slept up to ten… not comfortably, but it could be done.
10 Things You Need to Know Before You Roadtrip

2009 – Green Roadtrippers

I could write for months about the RV, and indeed, I might—but I have met so many parents who want to roadtrip with their kids that I think for this post, I’ll cut to the chase and give you some practical tips. If you’re homeschooling, a word of caution for those of you who think you’re going to be “roadschooling” and that it will look even remotely like regular school.

It won’t.

Also, my husband did not appreciate our lack of privacy—but that’s another post for another day.

As I write this, we are on our way home from a long four months of travel. As an author and speaker, we depend on this time of year, as it’s the “busy season” for conferences. Our travel is what supports our family in many ways—but we didn’t start out that way. We started out with a desire to reach out and touch other families… and along the way, we discovered a new way to live.

Traveling together is not easy, but oh, it’s worth it. It’s family-strengthening, maddening, memory-making magic. You won’t regret it hitting the road with your family—but there are a few things that I’ve learned the hard way that just might make it a little more magical and a little less maddening. You’re welcome. 🙂

Happy roadtripping!

  1. Homeschooling? Leave your “regular” school books at home. Really.
    When we did our first trip in 2009, every child had a bin of school work. It was perfect. And that, my friends, was a problem. After two months, I put all their school stuff, with the exception of books to read for enjoyment, into a box and I shipped them home. The emotional temperature in our RV returned to normal the very same day.Instead of your normal routine, consider offering these kinds of books to the kids when you’re on the road:

    National Geographic Kids Ultimate U.S. Road Trip Atlas
    National Geographic Kids United States Atlas
    Mad Libs on the Road

    10 Things Parents Need to Know Before Going on a Roadtrip

  2. Whenever possible, stop and see interesting things. Visit national parks. Visit local aquariums and museums. Learn the history of the places you’re visiting. Go to the ocean. Instead of spending our limited funds on places like Disneyland, we opted for places like “The Hermitage” in Tennessee, “Fantastic Caverns” in Springfield, Missouri, “Monticello” and George Washington’s home, “Mount Vernon.” Our children have seen the Magna Carta, walked the battlefields of Gettysburg and touched the Liberty Bell.*side rant* My husband and I fear for a generation of children who don’t know the history of the United States or the path to freedom that was so hard-won. It’s not enough for us to expect our kids will learn all they need to know about our history from textbooks. Nothing can take the place of actually being there.Make some *real* memories instead of asking the kids to write about what they’re “learning” on the trip. Trust me on this one. They’re learning.
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    First time seeing the Gulf of Mexico (2009)

     

    Rare weekend off the road Tennessee Aquarium (2016)

    Rare weekend off the road Tennessee Aquarium (2016)

     

  3. You don’t need to think of everything when you’re packing. Forget your allergy meds? Need vitamins? Forget underwear? Leave a kid behind? (just kidding not really) Here’s the thing: in most cases, you can always get what you left at a store along the way. Stop freaking out. You will forget something, so expect it.  Wal-Mart is your friend. And speaking of when you pack…
    Free laundry facilities at a state park near New Orleans for the WIN!

    Free laundry facilities at a state park near New Orleans for the WIN! (2009)

     

  4. Less is more. I took everything and the kitchen sink with me on our first trip—because I didn’t know that it was more realistic to think of myself as the “motorhome mama” that I inevitably turned into whenever I didn’t feel like using all those “necessary” items. I mean to tell you, that Pampered Chef microwave cooker (which I paid top-dollar for) taunted me from it’s place in the cupboard every time we ate at Taco Bell or cracked open a skillet meal from Costco. In 15,000 miles, I used it twice. Two years later, when we swapped our class “C” for a class “A,” I brought three things I knew I would use: an electric griddle, a single serve coffee maker (saved us a million bucks in Starbucks) and my crockpot.
    Take what you will use with ease! (2011)

    Take what you will use with ease! (2011)

     

  5. Protein > Carbs. When you’re on the road for hours at a time, avoid snacks that are rich in carbs. Carbs make kids wiggly and wiggly kids do not last long on the road. We stock our car cooler with hard-boiled eggs, cheese, jerky, nuts, and veggies when we can. And just in case you think I’m no fun at all, we do indulge in bite-sized candy bars and local sweets. But trust me. If you can keep simple sugars and carbs low, your kids will last longer … and so will you! Check out this travel snack pack!
    Maps like this are must-haves... if you have the window space!

    Maps like this are must-haves… if you have the window space!

     

  6. Hit the road early—and get off around dinner time. We’ve done it all: traveled through the night, traveled until we were all just dead on our feet. But when we started being disciplined about getting up early and getting off the road around dinner, something wonderful happened: we started enjoying the road much more!  If you think about it, it’s common sense, which makes me wonder why it took me nearly 15,000 miles to figure it out.
    This was our second RV. As you can see, we made the most of the space we had!

    This was our second RV. As you can see, we made the most of the space we had!

     

  7. Hoteling it? Use price-cutting apps. I don’t have time here to explain all the differences but I have found that I can stay sometimes up to 70% off using these apps. Of course, it doesn’t always work; if you’re in Yellowstone during peak season, you’ll be hard-pressed to find great deals. Favorites? Priceline and Hotwire. Our rule-of-thumb is that we like to be under $65 per night, and that the  hotel must have breakfast. Many of the hotels serve dinner and breakfast, making a higher cost worth it, especially if you’re traveling with a crew like we have done.Come to think of it, I’m going to write a post about my favorite apps for traveling. I have several that we can’t live without. This trip, we started using Air B&B … and I think we’ll never go back to just hotels again. That’s a blog post for another day.
    Always look for hotels that offer free, full breakfast. Read reviews online before you book a room!

    Always look for hotels that offer free, full breakfast. Read reviews online before you book a room! (2011)

     

  8. RV’ers: if you’re trying to save money, most WalMarts still allow RV’s to stay overnight for free. It’s great! Some of them even have hookups, but those are few and far-between.
    Make new friends! Here's Jay, getting to know the manager of an RV park in Alabama.

    Make new friends! Here’s Jay, getting to know the manager of an RV park in Alabama. (2010)

     

  9. Never take your safety for-granted. I hate to have to put this in here, but we’ve learned the hard way that the road is not always friendly to travelers. We were robbed blind in New Orleans on Father’s Day in 2009—a memory that will stay with us forever. In just twenty minutes, a group broke into our RV and stole almost everything we owned. Nothing was spared. Now, we travel with our eyes peeled, and we never leave things like laptop computers in vehicles. We put them in backpacks and keep them with us.Know gun laws in each state if you conceal carry. Stay safe out there!
    At the White House

    At the White House in 2009

     

  10. Carry a paper atlas with you. Phones can die. GPS systems can fail. Ask me how I know. You need to be able to navigate your way around the “old-fashioned” way. Use them, yes. But never rely on your electronic devices to get you where you’re going.

 

It’s been eight years since we became hard-core, homeschooling road-trippers. This year, we have traveled over 17,000 miles in our Honda Odyssey, which has pulled a small cargo trailer triumphantly from sea to shining sea. If it seems overwhelming, it is. But it’s worth it.

I have a few days left of sitting in this car … and I’ll try to put together some more tips along the way.

Happy trails!

Vinyl Travel Map

Cook ‘Carry Crock Pot

Have Kids, Will Travel

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Ahh the glamorous life of the road.

People often ask us what it’s like to live for months at a time sleeping in Wal Mart parking lots with six or seven children. Honestly, I’ve asked myself some of these questions, so here are my candid answers to the top five- including how to travel with kids!

We do it because it’s part of our job, but truly, driving is the BEST way to see the country. And what an amazing country it is!

What Is It {really} Like?

It’s amazing. But it’s also hard. Nothing that’s worth doing in this life is ever easy.  Since we believe that God would have us stay together as a family, we take most of our speaking engagements with six gorgeous kids in-tow. Traveling with this many kids is not easy, and when you are doing it with eight people in a 27 foot motorhome, prepare for adventure.

But we’ve learned a lot of things in the past five years of doing this.

 

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See that man? He’s my awesome husband. He has just finished lettering our new cargo trailer. I tell ya, there’s nothing this man can’t do.

And it’s a good thing–because in the line of work God has called us to, we’ve got to be ready for just about anything. This spring will mark our third trip traveling across the United States as a family. 10 people. One vehicle. Lots of adventures–and misadventures.

Which brings me to:

What’s the hardest part about traveling cross-country in an RV?

No contest here: breakdowns.  They’re expensive and often scary!  Last time, we had to replace

  • the brakes
  • the transmission
  • the rear axle …
Familiar sight: This is from our first trip in 2009.

Familiar sight: This is from our first trip in 2009.

But all in all, we’ve seemed to weather it fine so far …

Together with our kids, we make some smokin’ hot road trippers.

And I’m not kidding.

In 2011, near the end of our last 15,700 mile journey, our RV caught on fire.

You heard me. On.Fire.

We were somewhere outside of Cheyenne at about 9:30 that night. I had just tucked the little kids into bed for the night and we planned on driving several more hours.

Our son caught a glimpse of “orange flickering” near the back of the motorhome, just beyond the rear bedroom window.

Jay pulled over and immediately came running to the side door: “Everyone out!  The wheel is on fire! OUT! OUT!”

I ran for the kids in the back while the older ones grabbed blankets and we headed out into the brush on the side of the freeway. In the dark. In the cold. We stood barefoot in the dry Wyoming grass while Jay tried desperately to put out the fire. A semi-truck driver pulled over and used his fire extinguisher after ours was empty. But the fire would not go out.

Just about the time we were about to watch the entire thing go up in flames, Jay had the brilliant idea to cut the grey water line and all the sink water began to empty onto the fire. As the fire trucks and ambulance, police and fire marshall were arriving, we saw the flames die down.

This.Was.Not.Fun. We shut down the freeway in both directions for at least an hour. The Fire Marshall said it was a miracle that the RV didn’t explode, since the fire, which was sparked from a rear bearing, began just above the FUEL LINE.

Yeah. I believe in angels.

That was our last road trip. This time, we’re driving in a 15 passenger van, since my PTSD has not let lifted from our last trip. -Keep Calm and Carry On-, she says. In the van we shall go.

I could tell many more stories, but I’ll save those for another blog entry. Back to the questions.

Heading to a hotel while our RV was getting a new transmission. This was T-2 ... 2011.  Transmission broke down just after taping a radio interview with Dr. James Dobson. (Yeah, that was embarrassing.)

Heading to a hotel while our RV was getting a new transmission. This was T-2 … 2011. Transmission broke down just after taping a radio interview with Dr. James Dobson. (Yeah, that was embarrassing.)

How Do You Do It?

Good question. Organization is the key.

And games for the kids. And stops along the way.

And patience. And grace. Yeah. That too.

But I’ve discovered that if you can be extra-prepared, the trip will be more successful, and less stressful. Usually when we travel, we are moving from venue to venue without much time to stop and “play,” so the key to keeping everyone in good spirits falls on the mom–if the littles ain’t happy on the road–nobody’s happy!

My favorite small-space organizer: a shoe keeper! This hung on the wall of the RV near the back.

My favorite small-space organizer: a shoe keeper! This hung on the wall of the RV near the back.

Where do you put your stuff?

Another great question! We are organizational nuts.  Our two older daughters and I take a three-fold approach to organizing for  road trip , but it works for living in a small space, even if you’re not in an RV or a van!

  1. Pack simply.  No more than five days worth of clothes per person. Each child has a clear plastic bin in which to keep their belongings. They must leave room to “collect” things on the road–souvenirs, etc., all need to fit into their space.  We bring our own pillows so that we can sleep better at night.It’s very important to allow the kids to bring something they can’t live without.  Each of our children is different and has a different idea of what that is.  We encourage them to keep it simple.
  2. Everything has a place.  EVERYTHING. Every.Thing.  From chargers to post cards, insurance information to sunglasses. Everything has a place.  Each time we stop, we do a little tidy-up to make sure things are put back where they go.  This is crucial or things get lost and/or broken.This was my favorite item from our last road trip: a simple shoe holder that I found at WalMart. It’s made of canvas so we just let the kids design their own little pockets and made pockets for all those “little” things that get lost or misplaced so easily. We hung it near the top of the ceiling so that the little ones could not reach medicines or other things we didn’t want them to touch.  Worked like a charm.  In fact, when we got back home, we hung it up again. If you need to pare down at home, make a list of what you can’t live without, and then put those things aside.  It’s amazing what we can live without, what we don’t need.
  3. Entertainment and Exercise for Everyone. When you are driving for 12-15 hours at a time, there has to be something to keep the mind and body from atrophying. For us, it’s iPad games, movies, card games, school work (15 minutes at a time), naps and good conversation. And yummy snacks. That too. This year, we will be stopping frequently to let the kids run and stretch our muscles. Being in a van will be a different experience so we’re hoping to take advantage of hotel workout rooms and pools. Exercise is so important. Without it, we start to lose energy and our emotions ratchet up toward defcon six.  

What Do You Eat?

I‘ll be honest: On our first trip back in 2009, I took all my cookware and utensils.  And used them twice in three months. It just wasn’t practical. So in order to eat something besides fast food (yuck) we started looking for healthy meals that we could prepare quickly:

Sandwiches, Costco chicken, bagged salad, prepared main dishes from grocery stores etc.

I do cook occasionally but in all honesty, it’s not easy with a large group. Especially if it decides to rain and the kids can’t go outside while I cook.  On our first road trip, I gained 15 pounds.  The last one, we did just fine because we were much more intentional about our meals: healthier snacks, more water, less soda.  (duh.)

The kids take turns adding states to the map as we go.

The kids take turns adding states to the map as we go.

How do the kids do?

Honestly, sometimes great, sometimes, not so great . Wait. That’s just like home.

Getting sleep is very important though.  Sometimes hard when you’ve spent the night next to a noisy semi-truck or in 110 degree heat and the AC quits working.  That’s not very much fun.

Early morning in the RV 2011

Early morning in the RV 2011

Where Do You Stay?

Wal Mart or KOA when we have the RV. WalMarts are great because they’re free.  Just pull over and get everyone into bed.  Bonus: You can stock up on needed supplies while you’re there. 🙂

This year we’ll be hoteling it.  I’ll let you know how that goes. I’m not sure yet since we’ve never done it this way.  You might have to haul me home in a paddy wagon. 🙂 I’m hoping not though. Right now a friend is researching hotels that are large-family friendly.

Sometimes, if we have a few days inbetween conventions, we stay at campgrounds to unwind.

Near Colorado Springs

Near Colorado Springs

Overall, is it worth it?

Yes. In spite of all the breakdowns (the RV and the family), fire, long nights and weary days, we would not change it for the world. Our adventures have drawn us closer as a family. Living in a small space has made us realize we can live without most of the “stuff” we think we need. Seeing different parts of the United States has given our children a love for other places and a desire to meet new people.

 

“Remember when…” has become a regular part of discussion around the dinner table. Now that our oldest is grown and married, we appreciate this short season even more.

So if you’re thinking of RV’ing it, I vote YES.

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We love to talk about traveling with the family. If you’ve got any questions, leave a comment here. My hunch is that if you’ve got a question, others have it too.

We’re in New Mexico to speak for CAPE right now … we leave on our big road trip with the kids when we get back on Sunday.

We sure would appreciate your prayers–they make all the difference!

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