If you are reading this right now, chances are you are a mom. If you’re like me, you’re trying to find five minutes to yourself. Motherhood is a demanding profession. It’s 24/7, doesn’t pay well and gets almost no respect. I think that’s part of the reason moms feel so overwhelmed. Frankly, I think it’s why our culture is struggling the way it is.
Our culture has largely rejected the idea that children are a blessing. I’ll never forget the looks I received when we were expecting our fifth child. Cold stares, people counting by nodding their heads. At one point I remember being embarrassed to go Costco with the children while I looked pregnant. I just couldn’t stand feeling like people were staring and pointing and talking behind my back.
It’s been years since then. I got over my embarrassment, obviously, because we went on to have two more children. Why? Because my husband and I realized something as we grew in our relationship. We realized that our investment in our children was the best thing about our life. Easy? NO. Worth it? YES! Psalm 127:3 says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a reward.”
Wow! Isn’t that counter to the culture that we live in? The fruit of the womb, the Bible says, is a reward! If you look at Proverb 17:6, it says, “Grandchildren are the crown of the aged and the glory of children is their father’s.”
I am learning this first hand. We just experienced the joy of welcoming our first grandchild into the family, and there is nothing like it in the whole world. Someone should have told me about it, because I would have had grandchildren first! It’s all newborn, nothing of the nightshift! Looking in the eyes of this beautiful little boy who is being raised by MY daughter and her husband is glorious!
If you’re in the throes of raising children (no matter the size of your family) keep in mind that you are doing the best work there is. The culture tells us that children are a burden but God says they are a blessing! The culture says only try to have one or two children, but God says blessed is the man whose quiver is full of children.
I wish that as a culture, we looked at children the way that God does. I’m not talking about disputable matters when I talk about children, either. I don’t care to get into a discussion about birth control. I do want to point you towards God’s Word so that y0u can see how God views children. Over and over again we read that God loves children. His heart is for children.
In Matthew 19, we read about how the children were brought to Jesus so that He could lay His hands on them and pray for them, but the disciples rebuked the people saying, “Hey, Jesus is too busy for the kids.” But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them. For the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.” He then laid his hands upon them and went away.
Children are a gift.
Busy mom, if you have just found out that you’re pregnant with another child and you’re feeling burdened and overwhelmed or someone is mocking your pregnancy announcement, don’t let them bother you. Whenever we were pregnant, people would come up to us and say, “Hey, do you know how that works?” Eventually, after so many incidents, my husband finally said, “Yeah, we do, and we like it!” We can think of lots of things to say to people when they make fun of the number of children we have, but I always tell parents it’s the hardest, best thing we have ever done is having a big family. We are so thankful that we didn’t let negative comments cheat us out of enjoying the wonder of raising children.
Am I saying that it’s easy? Absolutely not! There have been days where I’ve wanted to throw myself off a cliff! Sometimes I look at my husband and say, “Why did we have all these children?” There have been days when I wondered if I could do it for one more moment… but I’ll tell you what, the Bible is true. God’s mercy is new every morning.
His mercy will be new for you every day, busy mom. One day, by God’s grace, we will be looking back on our lives and we’ll really understand what it means to have a “crown of the aged.” Until then, I choose to believe God’s Word.
Children a blessing.