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A Wise Mom Multiplies Her Efforts

 

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Did you know that mothers expand their work by multiplication and not just addition?

Proverbs has a lot to say about the training of children. In Proverbs 22:6 we read,

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and even when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

This is not a formula or a guarantee for flawless children, rather it is a principal that children keep good habits they learn when they are young.  Every mother’s goal should be to train her children to replace her—and that starts when the children are young.  Start with training your children to help you at home.

A mother’s effectiveness depends on multiplying her efforts around the house.

Recently, I’ve had conversations with new moms who are struggling to get their kids to work around the house. Simple things like chores become battles for control, and Mom’s frustration shows at the end of the day when she decides to do the chore herself.  Hey, I get it! Sometimes it’s easier to clean the kitchen by myself than to train a child to do it while they grumble and complain, or even worse – grumble and complain while doing the chore wrong and then having to be told to do it again. That’s happened just a few times around my house. 😉

It does take a lot of effort on your part, but there is value in training your children to work. There is value in teaching your children how to do the things around the house.  They help now and can do things on their own when they leave your house.

One time, I heard someone say that a mom who has her children working around the house is a lazy mom.  I would like to suggest that nothing could be further from the truth! That person had clearly never trained a child to work around the house because it is so much easier to do it yourself, right?  Most of you who have tried to teach children to work know exactly what I’m talking about!

Don’t be afraid be afraid to teach  your children to work.

Today, sit down with your children and let them know exactly what is expected of them. Children who know what is expected of them have an easier time accomplishing things that are needed to be accomplished, and they feel secure in those expectations. It’s hard to work for someone when you don’t know what is expected of you!

A wise mom multiplies her efforts through training and teaching her children.  Communicate with your children and train them up, Busy Mom. That’s your job.

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Organizing your Chores {Blog Hop}

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If you’ve been following me for very long, then you know I am a huge fan of training children to work.

Here is a chart from my friend Toni over at The Happy Housewife—a list of age-appropriate chores that children can do.  This does not mean that they do every chore, but it’s a list of ideas for you. If you’re wondering, “What can my four-year old do?”, this this might help you:

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Around here, we use a weekly rotation for the “big things.”   Here is what ours looks like this year:

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If you like this one, you can download a printable version of it here!

Bottom line:  Have a plan. Teach your children to help and the value of hard work.  You’ll all be better off for it!

Work the Plan,
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Read all of the posts about “Organizing Your Chores” on these blogs! And read all about the Blog Hop going on HERE!

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Git ‘er Done: 5 Tips for Easier Laundry

Ahh, the joys of laundry … or not.

“My second favorite household chore is ironing. My first being hitting my head on the top bunk bed until I faint.” – Erma Bombeck

Does the thought of all the laundry you have to do overwhelm and discourage you? If so, you’re not alone.  Laundry is one of those things we tend either love or hate!

I used to hate it—but in all honesty, I don’t anymore. I love the smell of clean laundry.  And I REALLY like grabbing shirts and dresses out of the dryer before they need to be ironed!  Mmmm.  Lavender fabric softener is my new guilty pleasure. 🙂 But I won’t tell if you won’t!

No matter how you feel about this age old chore, it’s always good to feel like you’ve got the best of it instead of the other way around. No, really!  You can! It’s important.  And you don’t need a laundry “room” to be really great at getting a handle of doing laundry. In fact, I devoted a huge part of a chapter to laundry in “The Busy Homeschool Mom’s Guide to Daylight” because I honestly believe that if we had a better system, laundry would not be such a chore.

So without further adieu, here are FIVE of my favorite laundry tips!  Let me know what your favorite tips are – if they make my next article, I’ll send you a free copy of my book.

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Train your children to do laundry. I’m not kidding!  If your child is just three years old he is not too little to start training.  A three year old can put laundry in the hamper.  She can help you put the clothes into the washing machine.

So often, moms find themselves overwhelmed when a quick glance around the room reveals a much bigger issue: children who could and should be helping simply are not.

Start when they are little. By the age of eight, my kids can run both the washer and the dryer, and they can measure the detergent too.  Teens can do their own laundry. Tweens should be helping by folding the baby’s laundry.  You get the idea.  Put your kids to work!  Yes it’s more work for mom initially but the payoff is worth it, and believe me when they move out they will thank you for training them to take care of themselves and others.

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Early and often. Fly Lady says, “A load a day keeps the chaos away”, and I could not agree more.

Around our house, the first load is started first thing in the morning. We often run three loads a day but two for our household of 10 is about average. Two loads a day. Kitchen towels pile up and we do them twice a week. My point is—we are doing a lot of little loads to avoid the massive laundry “day” that is sure to pile up if we don’t.

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Use a system. This cannot be over-emphasized. 🙂  Systems work!  And usually, any system is better than no system!

I wrote about our system at length in my book but I can simplify it by saying that in our house, each BEDROOM has it’s own laundry basket.  Here’s how it works:

1. Child fills up his or her laundry hamper.

2. Mom or children start a load and run it through.

3. When laundry comes out of the dryer, it is immediately sorted into the basket that corresponds to the room the child is in.

This makes the CHILD responsible for his or her own laundry. It works.  BONUS: It forces the child to think about the amount of clothes they throw in the wash each day. 🙂  And I’m ALL for that!

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Think before you buy!  In other words—if you have a lot of people in your house, if it wrinkles easily or if it will require extra care, maybe it’s something you should just leave in the store. Yeah. Just say “no” to more work in the laundry room!

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Get caught up. Have a laundry-folding party!  In our house, when we get behind (and believe me, it happens) then my solution is to gather the troops, dump all the clothes out on the floor and have a FOLD-FEST.

The last time we needed to do this was … mmmm… two days ago.  🙂  I had been gone and we had about eight loads of laundry that needed to be folded and put away.  With my kids helping, we got it all done in just over an hour!

hint: if you need to have a fold-fest, take a washcloth, get it wet and throw it into the dryer with the clothes that are too wrinkly to wear.  Give it about ten minutes on medium heat.  Voila! No ironing!

Ready to Git ‘er done? Train your kids to help, get a system and get moving!  You’ll be glad you did!

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Working: It’s all in the family

Got Kids?

Homeschooling?

Got laundry?

Feeling behind? Overwhelmed?

Good news!  If you have a child who is four or older, you’ve got help! 🙂

Homeschooling is a lifestyle. Around here, sometimes that means taking the day off and catching up on chores that have been overlooked. We teach our children the importance of working simply because they are part of the family.  While we reward our children for “extra” things like washing the car or helping with a family project, their primary reward is the reward of working together as a family.  Of appreciating the food they eat and the clothes they wear—and the warm comfy bed that greets them each night.

As they grow, knowing they have done a good job by helping their parents around the house becomes a reward in and of itself, and an important part of growing up.

Don’t miss out on the opportunity to train up your kids! Train them in every way you can—pretty soon they will be running their own homes.

Sample Daily Checklist

I like to make individual checklists of everyday assignments for our kids. I plan six months at a time if I can. It takes me two days to make these checklists for each of our kids. I’ve attached a page from last year.

Notice that I have a special time set aside for each child to go over their assignments. 🙂 The checklist is meant to help them know what is expected of them each week. And no. We don’t always get it all done. But we try. 😀

 

Heidi St John Guide to Daylight