More Than Making Babies


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Hi moms!

You may have seen my Tuesday post that shed just a little light on the physical battle I’m facing—so the next few podcasts were recorded ahead-of-time.  In fact, I’m hospital right now, and my sweet husband is helping me write this Friday’s post.  My surgery went well, and now I’m trying to get on the road to recovery.  (aka: I’m on drugs.)  🙂

It’s been a rough day—painful for sure but also humbling.  Nothing like needing help just to go the bathroom!  I’m so glad Jay has seen me at my worst. Why?  Because it strengthens us when we walk through deep water together.

The longer I’m married, the more I appreciate the many sacrifices my husband has made for me.  I want so much to bless him!  God designed marriage to be an amazing union between a husband and wife.  In our culture, we’ve lost much of the appreciation and wonder that God gives to the marriage relationship.  Have you ever thought about how much God loves us?  Marriage is a wonderful place to see God’s love for people.

Sex between married people is one example of God’s care for His creation.

Certainly it was within God’s creative ability to make procreation a dull, necessary part of making sure the human race continued.

Genesis 2:24 says “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Did you know that God has given us the ability to enjoy sex for the sake of enjoyment alone? The world seems to have stolen this from the Christian community and so we either hear about it being an awful, wicked thing or we hear about it being something that has absolutely no boundaries on it at all.

But did anyone ever tell you that sex is only for making babies? I hope you realize how far from God’s heart that is. God’s heart is that you enjoy sex with your husband. His design is infinitely more wonderful and loving toward us than we could ever comprehend. I love the imagery, of scripture: the Bible says that the two will become one flesh, ONE FLESH. The language itself suggests intensity, infusion, and pleasure. It also shows that God’s heart in uniting a husband and wife was meant to be this way, on purpose. God wants us to be one flesh.

For this reason, a man shall leave his parents, and they will have babies? Is that what God said? No, He said they will leave their parents and cleave to their spouse and become one flesh.

Sex is about so much more than making babies. I truly believe that God meant for sex to provide us with a respite from the stresses of this world. And a healthy, intimate relationship serves to strengthen the bonds between a husband and wife. Sex gives physical pleasure, and release, and wonder of wonders the most amazing thing we can think of happens through sex: NEW LIFE is created! Every time I think about this amazing gift, I’m speechless.

Be speechless—enjoy married life!

Heidi St John Firmly Planted Family Devotional For All Ages

About Heidi St. John

Heidi has been married to her husband Jay since 1989. Together they have seven children and three grandchildren! The St. Johns homeschooled their kids all the way through high school. Heidi is the the author of seven books, host of the popular podcast "Off the Bench," and the founder of MomStrong International, an online community of women learning God's Word and how to apply it to every day life. She and her husband Jay are also the founders of Firmly Planted Family and the Firmly Planted Homeschool Resource Center, located in Vancouver, Washington.

8 thoughts on “More Than Making Babies

  1. Thanks for the wonderful reminder. I am praying for your recovery. I bet after helping you write this post, Jay is ready for you to get well also 🙂

    1. I realized after writing this comment, that it could have been misunderstood. What I meant was, after helping you write about the subject of sex, Jay is probably ready for you to recover. I could imagine my husband grinning at me saying “Just wait until you are recovered!”

      My apologies if my comment was misunderstood.

  2. Continued prayers for your recovery. Although, I wouldn’t have chosen that path, I treasure the time that I was able to spend with my husband while I was in the hospital after my hysterectomy. It was truly deep waters that we were trying to walk through but so incredibly enriching. I pray that God’s hand will touch you during this vulnerable time now and as your grieve the changes in the months to come.

  3. I agree that the world has twisted our view of sex….but we must also be sure we don’t do the one view that has also pervaded the Christian mindset..that it is totally free of making babies.

    Sex is for us to enjoy with our husbands…pure and simple…but it is also wrong to separate it from childbirth…because God also gave it to us for procreation as well.

    It is kind of like our breasts…they are for sexual enjoyment…as well as the nourishing of our babies. They aren’t one or the other…they are both. And there is a time and place for both….

    Praying for your quick and total healing!

  4. Thank you for continually sharing your heart with us. This is a very important message for married couples. Thank you for this sweet and awesome reminder and message!

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