28 thoughts on “Thank you, Robin

  1. I think the point of the “choice” conversation is to bring hope to those suffering in the same way – not to belittle his despair. To say that this isn’t the inevitable end to depression. To show that people make it out on the other side and they can, too. The way some people talk about it, hope is found in death. As believers we know hope is found in Christ alone (to quote the song), even in death. It’s an important distinction.

  2. The reason the ‘choice’ articles came out was largely because of the ‘you’re finally free’ articles which almost gave glory to suicide. At the end of the day it is in fact a choice. I’ve been in very dark places and I sure don’t look down on anyone for being there. But I’d beg them, shouting from rooftops, to hang on. Don’t make that choice. The consequences that are left behind are too painful. Because, while you feel alone in that moment, you aren’t. No one is TRULY alone. Someone is left behind with the hurt and guilt and regret that never goes away. We lost a friend to suicide, but not instantly. We saw him one last time in the ER being wheeled into ICU, he couldn’t speak but his eyes had fear in them. I can never get that out of my mind. Nor the 2 weeks in ICU. Nor the meeting to decide to remove him from life support. Depression is a horrible thing and I hope that this will help people to reach out for help and not feel more judgement.

  3. Thank you as well for writing this! Matt Walsh’s blog about this being Matt’s choice was cold, uncaring.
    He may have been focused on saving the lives of anyone else who is depressed & is or will consider suicide. However, the way he said things was in a way that would NOT actually help save many people, if any.

    No, suicide is not a good choice. However, compassion is always the best route to take with anyone contemplating such. Not his “it is wrong & selfish so just don’t do it” kind of ‘help’.

  4. Celebrities come and they go. I read about it all the time. It’s just news, right? But, for some strange reason for the first time ever, I have cried over the death of a celebrity. The news of Robin Williams death brought great sorrow to my heart. (I shed tears even as I write this.) To think that a man who was so funny and made us laugh so much had secretly suffered so deep a depression just breaks my heart. One reason, which you mentioned in your excellent article, Heidi, is the reality that we don’t always really know people. We all are actors or have been at one time or another in our lives. Many acting like they are happy, when the reality is they are so broken inside. Keeping up the show to please others and make them happy, when in reality they a grasping to hang on in a most desperate way. Pretending to be confident when they feel so utterly inadequate, or being the life of the party while at the same time feeling all alone. I guess, just thinking about the fact that too often we are looking at the surface with individuals, communicating in the shallow and never reaching beyond that has made me reflect on my own relationship with others around me. So many around us do not have the peace and joy that only Jesus Christ can bring. They seek for it in so many things and ways, yet they are still so empty inside. Not just celebrities, but your everyday Joe and Jane too. This world has been so ravaged by sin and sorrow. There is such a great need for the love and peace of Jesus. No, I do not think what you said was silly at all, Heidi. I too had similar thoughts. That is why I’ve been asking myself today: “How well am I sharing the love and hope of Jesus with others?”, for certainly this world is in desperate need of that ‘Hope of Glory’. I thank God for Robin Williams. He was used to make me laugh so many times over the years and he was also used to make me cry, in a much needed soul-searching way. My prayers go up for his family. Blessings.

  5. I am saddened by your use of grace making suicide ok. It most certainly is a choice.

    God does not take others playing Him lightly and I doubt would gloss that over with ‘grace’.

    It is heartbreaking he didn’t know the Fathers love for him.

    Matts blog was actually spot on.

    1. Kristy, I don’t recall mentioning Matt’s blog—because I haven’t read it—nor do I think I’ve glorified suicide. I have struggled with depression and anxiety my entire life—and I can’t imagine trying to navigate this world apart from Jesus.

      That was my point. Harsh words won’t change the devastating decision that Robin made, so let’s not lose sight of the fact that he spent likely his entire life bringing smilies to others even though he was in so much private pain.

      The “grace” I refer to needs to come from others. It doesn’t make suicide “ok,” it lets others know we understand the struggle. To find yourself in the place where the only “choice” you feel you have left is to commit suicide is heartbreaking. And it deserves our compassion, not our condemnation. Maybe a little compassion might keep another from making the same choice.

  6. Don’t forget, Robin was actually a professing Christian. (YouTube his dialogues about being an episcopalian). I have read many statements about how if he just had Jesus, he would not have been tempted into suicide. But many Christians get depression, many Christians get desperate enough to kill themselves. Just worries me when I read peoples statements–if Christians aren’t free to have depression and will be judged for sharing their struggles, then there will be more silent sufferers of depression.

  7. Thank you for your article, full of heart, love, and grace. There is hope. In those dark places, many need to know that there is hope, even when it doesn’t feel like it. Thank you for your compassion. Thank you for being loving when there are so many who are either critical or glorifying suicide.

  8. So beautiful, Heidi. Thank you for your transparent, truthful writing and perspective. I love that about you. Your candidness helps me realize I am not the only one who has many blessings, loves The Lord, yet still struggles with deep sadness at times that grips your heart and soul. Thank you sweet Heidi.

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