I came from a long line of highly educated people. Even my grandmother, born at the turn of the century, had an advanced degree. So naturally, when I started homeschooling, I expected that my children would also be highly academic.
Then I discovered the world of dyslexia.
Dyslexia causes otherwise intelligent people to struggle mightily with reading, writing and spelling. So while my kids had all of the intelligence to succeed academically, their execution of school-type work hindered them. In fact, because these things were so hard for them, and despite their great creativity, imagination and love of learning itself, they disliked traditional academic pursuits. Yikes! This mama was worried.
Looking back now after 20 years of homeschooling dyslexic kids, I realize that I could have saved myself a lot of sorrow if I had realized one basic fact much sooner.
God’s Purposes Over My Purposes
God created my kids with great purpose from before time began.
God…called us with a holy calling, not according to our works,
but according to His own purpose and grace
which was given to us in Christ Jesus before time began.
2 Timothy 1:8-9
While I may not know God’s exact purposes for my kids, I can know that they are good and perfect, awesome and doable.
Somehow, intellectually I understood this but practically speaking, I wanted things my way. As I learned to lean on God and ask Him for direction for my kids’ lives I found peace.
Many Types of Intelligence
All of my years trying to figure out dyslexia taught me that there are many types of intelligence. Not only that but that they were perfectly created that way by God so that they could beautifully and naturally fulfill their God-given purpose!
So relax mamas, breathe! Lay your burdened thoughts for your children and their futures down before the Lord. Let go of your expectations and ask God for wisdom. As God slowly weaves your story and the stories of your children together, it will be tempting to pick up that burden once again, but I assure you – God is faithful. His promises are true.
While your child may not be meeting your expectations, he or she is being prepared day-by-day, experience-by-experience for God’s purposes to be fulfilled in their lives.
Discovering God-given Talents
Once we have laid down our agenda for our kids, we are free to observe our kids natural interests and strengths. Where do they excel in ability? What really interests them? Where these two intersect, interest and ability, may well be where their purpose lies.
Questions to Ask
Are you teaching them about the wonderful works of God? Are you pointing them to Jesus in their trials? Have they experienced the faithfulness of God?
Honestly, what would be the worst thing that could happen if your child never mastered Algebra? Read all of the classics? Or never went to college? Could God still use their lives? Of course!
Now go and lay those burdens down and pray for God’s good and perfect purpose to be made known in your lives and the lives of your kids.