Once in a while, people ask me how I “do it all.” I usually cringe at the question—because I’m never sure how to answer it without a long drawn-out explanation of how I can’t possibly even pretend that I can do it all.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately—Pinterest and Facebook and blogging have created this illusion that moms can have it all and do it all. I believe that the illusion is hurting us. As I write this, I’ve finished school (hooray) but the dishes are not done and the laundry is piling up. I am pretty sure I had it done yesterday. I had the house all tidy and in a matter of a few hours it looks like a war zone. Honestly. Oh well.
As I said in yesterday’s Quiet Time Talk, nothing else compares to spending time with the ones God has given to us. The privilege of parenting lasts just for a season. It ends as quickly as it begins. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to miss it.
You may see me posting on Facebook and wonder how I’m “there” so much. Well, I’ve decided to pull back the curtain a little more on my life so that you can see what it really takes manage a family and homeschool while I write books and blog and speak. Not because I’ve got it all together—but because I don’t.
Life just happens while we’re busy making other plans, doesn’t it? One minute I’ve got the world by the tail and the next I’m sitting the ER with a toddler.
It occurred to me a few weeks ago that it looks like I am on Facebook every few hours because I’ve wanted it to look that way to some degree. I wanted to look like I was there, because I care about the people I’ve come to know and look forward to reading comments, etc. Lately though, I’ve wondered if that’s actually hurting my message of being “in life” more and online less. So, allow me to be very honest: In reality, I’m there at my page just a couple times each day. Most of my posts are scheduled early in the morning when I’m by myself and can think straight. Of course, every once in a while I’ll post something that’s happening that strikes me as funny or that I think would encourage my readers.
Those of you who know me know that I like to share life with others. However… I can also get easily distracted and the computer can be a huge time waster for me. I can’t do school effectively with it open—something I struggle with all the time. I’ve discovered that the best way for me to do what I need to do is to plan ahead and to get help. I am always praying for balance and giving my agenda to the Lord so that He can help me sort it out. When I don’t do this, I struggle with feelings of guilt and insecurity. It’s become crucial in my life to find a balance in the way I spend my life’s energy.
I want to spend it on the things that matter the most.
If you’re struggling to find balance, you’re not alone. It’s illusive, but it’s there. We just have to keep asking, keep trying.
Speaking of finding balance—I’ve known for some time that I can’t be the only one that writes at my blog. I’m a huge fan of getting other perspectives and sharing the load. I also believe that God would have me be wise about how I spend my time, and part of that journey has led me to seek out a team of writers for The Busy Mom.
On Friday, you’ll meet them. There are 19 contributing writers coming from many different walks of life. Some large families, some small. Some homeschool, some do not. They all share of love for the Lord and for their families. The process of choosing writers was not easy. There are so many wise and godly women out there!
I hope you will be encouraged as they share their hearts and ideas with you. I’m so grateful for you all. It’s a tremendous blessing to me to be able to share a little of my heart with you each day. Thank you for being part of The Busy Mom. I hope that in the days to come, you’ll enjoy even more encouragement and we grow and stretch—and I pray we can all find the balance we need to love our families.
It’s there—we just have keep after it.