“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
Have you ever struggled with loneliness or maintaining friendships? Over the years, I have noticed how sensitive I can be (and I wrote about this recently). I wrote specifically about the dangers of social media, because thanks to the Internet, we can see things that we were never able to see before: that party that we didn’t get invited to, the women’s ministry team that went out for lunch and I saw pictures of it but never received an offer to join in.
As women, it’s easy to take those things and internalize them. I’ve noticed too, that women in mid-life often struggle with relationships. As the children grow, the demands on our time change. As the family grows, the dynamics change. The demands on my time are so much greater now than they were when all of our children were little. I have five young children at home and my oldest children are in their early twenties. The older ones are going through their own sort of growing pains, spreading their wings—and they need me in a different way than the little ones do—all this means that at the end of the day, I’m very tired—and I have less time now for things outside my immediate family than I once did.
Have you been there too?
I’m so glad for friends that understand seasons of life.
As the years pass, I find that the friendships I cherish the most are with those women that I can run and visit with at the drop of a hat. A dear friend of mine who I may or may not hear from for months at a time will give me me a call just to say, “Hey! I was just praying for you! Tell me how you’re doing.” Those friendships last.
They last because we choose to believe the best about each other, rather than the worst. We believe the best for each other, too. If you’re struggling with a friendship today, I want to encourage you to ask the Lord to give you His eyes for your friend.
As many of you know, I have a mantra. It is “No Drama, Mama!” I really believe that the Lord would have us extend grace to each other. If you have a friend who is not “hitting the mark” in your relationship today, ask the Lord to give you His perspective. As Him to give you grace for your friend for that moment and then see what He’ll do.
True friendships are worth it. They’re worth investing in and they will survive the tough seasons of life.
A friend loves at all times,