Some time ago, I was sitting on a flight from Indianapolis back home to Portland, where I had been speaking at a women’s event.
After trying several times to find a comfortable sleeping position, I gave up and reached for Delta’s magazine appropriately entitled “Sky.” Beautiful images of tropical destinations graced the pages, along with interesting articles about interesting people. Halfway through, I came across a piece entitled: “The Toys, They Are A-Changin.” The tagline read: “As society’s views on gender evolve, the business of play tries to keep up.”
My heart sank. Really? Here we go again.
The article was explaining how the toy industry in the United States is rapidly moving toward making their toys gender-neutral. It focused on one company in-particular. In this new world of genderless toys, a toy kit named “Tera” with a pink and purple color scheme features packaging with the picture of a little girl on the front. “Tera’s experiment,” the owner boasts. “In the beginning, one of the key attributes of [the toy company] Yoxo was gender neutrality. And then last year, we said, ‘How do we get more girls into construction toys?”
Call me crazy, but I think girls have always enjoyed these kinds of toys. When I was growing up, the girls I knew were into construction toys long before these gender-bending toy “therapists” existed. I played with Matchbox cars when I was a little girl. My first grade girlfriends and I built Lincoln Log towns with my brother while he made Star Wars characters out of Legos to raid the towns we created. No one needed to ask me if I felt like being a boy when I was building forts with my brother. My parents certainly didn’t wonder if I was wishing I was born a boy when I climbed trees and played war games with the boys in the neighborhood. Yes, I had a toy gun. (Don’t panic. I’m okay.) I also played dolls and pretended to be a school teacher when I was a child. I was a girl who played with dolls and trucks. These days, they’d have put me on hormone therapy and sent me to a shrink!
But today’s conventional wisdom is waaaaay ahead of the “gender” curve. Apparently, many parents are “fed up” with this notion of girl and boy labeling on their children’s toys. These hip parents are smarter than my old-fashioned teachers who let me play with both those things and never batted an eye.
Target is the first major retailer to “listen” to what their customers are apparently wanting, and so last summer, they removed “Boy” and “Girl” labels from their toy aisles—in “direct response,” they said, to consumers who have grown weary of the ” ‘old-school’ XX/XY binary.” Parents who objected were quickly labeled “homophobic” and “transphobic” all over social media. Shhhhh. Be quiet, over-protective parents. You look stupid and honestly, a little behind-the-times with your old fashioned ideas about gender n’stuff.
Amazon is not far behind, either— ditching gender-based labels in favor of gender-neutral labeling. After all, we want our kids to be free to be whoever they want to be, right? If your precious little boy wants to be a precious little girl, who are YOU to question his decision? Silly parents, DNA is irrelevant.
The article closes with a chilling look into what we can expect for our children in the days to follow this brave new gender-neutral culture: “Nelson [Yoxo CEO] leads us to a table covered in prototypes for [a new] line, a series of robots and dinosaurs. He grabs a blue dinosaur named Crush. “Crush is a blue dinosaur, it’s tough, be she is a she,” says Nelson. “And she kicks a**. That’s interesting, right? What does that say to a boy who gets this present that’s fierce and blue but that’s a girl?” At least, the dinosaur was a she in November. But now, as it turns out, Yoxo reconsidered and she is an it—and so goes the industry.”
…and the nation. I’m having a hard time imagining that expectant parents no longer care about the gender of their baby, as the progressive culture warriors are suggesting. Most parents I encounter still wait anxiously to find out the sex of their child. We have dreams for our sons and daughters, don’t we?
We don’t dream genderless dreams. After all, we are not gender-neutral.
Our DNA is set from conception. There are disruptions in DNA that result in anomalies, such as a missing, extra, or irregular portion of chromosomal DNA. For example, some children, including my beautiful niece, get an extra chromosome 21— for a total of 47 chromosomes instead of 46. It’s this extra genetic material that causes the physical features and developmental delays that we associate with a condition called “Down Syndrome.” But no amount of surgery, hormone injections or anything else will change someone’s DNA from a man’s to a woman’s. DNA matters.
Last week on my Facebook page, I shared an article with my 200K+ readers about a new law that Washington state is enacting in order to protect the less than 1% of the gender formerly referred to as “male” who now wish to be referred to and dress as “female.” (Unless of course they don’t want to, in which case they’ll go back to the men’s bathrooms, thank-you-very-much.)
While the vast majority of my readers understood my concerns over the safety and emotional well-being of women and girls in my state, I was nonetheless, predictably, called a “transgenderphobe” and a “homophobe.” All this, because I want to protect women and girls who deserve to be respected and protected when they use public restrooms. Having endured a pedophile in my family, I envision pedophiles and sexual predators will dress as women and end up assaulting girls in women’s restrooms because of this law. I doubt I’m alone in my totally rational, non-phobic fear of this scenario.
And speaking of phobias. Can we just stop with the name-calling? When a person such as myself disagrees with transgendered people using whichever bathroom their mental state dictates, it’s not a “phobia.” It’s a perfectly rational, logical conclusion to a rational line of thinking. That’s the opposite of a “phobia.” The free-thinking progressive movement in this nation has chosen to label anyone and everyone that disagrees with it as having some sort of “phobia,” to the point where we are afraid to even speak in opposition to ridiculous ideas like the law in Washington State.
Well, I’ve had enough.
I have five daughters, two sons, and two grandsons. If they ever believe they are not the gender that they were assigned by their Creator, I will not add insult to their emotional and mental confusion by lying to them. That’s exactly what we’re doing to our kids today: we’re lying to them. It’s a flat-out lie that I can be a man if I want to be. Ask Mr. Jenner. He is trying to be a woman, but his DNA will not be mocked: he is not a woman. He is a sick, confused man.
I have come to the place as a mother and grandmother where I feel it is imperative to urge parents to stop lying to their children in the name of “tolerance.” We are doing far more harm than good. I’m going to tell my children the truth. If they are born girls, that’s what they are. I want them to celebrate the DNA they were born with.
Years ago, a girl I love very much was diagnosed with anorexia. She was beautiful. A slight-framed girl, she weighed around 110lbs when she was healthy. But when she looked in the mirror, that’s not what she saw. She saw an obese, ugly girl. She began to binge and purge. She suffered a dramatic weight loss—because her “reality” was not real. Her mind was lying to her about who she was. Do you know what? No one lied to her about it. No one encouraged her to keep starving herself. Instead, we gently told her the truth until she believed it again.
We even fed her against her will at times and no one, I mean NO ONE called me “anorexiphobic” because I chose to tell my friend that she was not fat; she was devastatingly thin. A lie would have killed her.
This idea of gender-neutrality is hurting our kids in the same way that we would have hurt my friend if we had lied to her about her illness. Was she mad when we told her she needed to eat? YES! She screamed and yelled because she had to be accompanied to the bathroom to keep her from throwing up. She said we hated her. She said we were lying—but the truth was that her own mind was lying to her.
It took bold truth to begin to heal the bold lie that was being perpetuated against my friend by the disease we call anorexia. And the idea of gender-neutrality is also a bold lie. Like all lies from the devil, the lie that there is such a thing as “gender neutrality” is in direct opposition to the obvious way we have been created. God’s Word is clear on the issue of sexuality. We have been created as “male” and “female.”
“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27
Bold lies can only be countered with bold truth. A spirit called “Fear” is driving our decisions as parents, and the longer we listen to the lies and act in fear, the darker this nation will become.
Telling your children the truth about their DNA is not only healthy and good, it is necessary in the current culture we are living in. A small minority has hijacked the culture and we have let it happen, because we are a fearful and unwise generation.
If we do not stand and speak the truth, lies will become the reality that our children operate in. That’s a reality I wouldn’t wish on anyone, especially my grandchildren.