7 thoughts on “I’m Struggling {5 Practical Steps for Encouragement}

  1. Thanks for this post. Great advice. Gently instructing those who “oppose themselves.” : ) I think women do themselves “in” so much.

  2. Thank you for the post. I love the way that you said, “There was no word for what I was struggling with. And if I did think it, I didn’t speak it out loud.” That has been me until just recently. As a nurse for 21 years I have seen the stigma associated with the word “depression/depressed”. I was so afraid to admit it that I called it anything but, for years-but particularly that past year. I buried myself in “busy” to keep from having to acknowledge my feelings. Last year it was building to a peak that I could for see may be unhealthy but I ignored it. I was working full time (3-12 hour shifts/week), homeschooling my wonderful girls and taking care of all family needs because my husband was deployed to Afghanistan. He was injured and sent home in February (4 months early) and had to have surgery. I never missed a beat, kept working, schooling, and now caring for him.

    By June he was recovering well-I could feel some “stress” lifting. Then suddenly my mother was diagnosed with lymphoma and passed away within a month of the diagnosis. That was the peak (at the end of July). I went numb for a few months. Then we received orders and moved from NC which I loved to GA which I was/am less than thrilled with. In November I felt the weight of the world (keep in mind that we just moved, I was no longer working and had only to homeschool my girls each day). I could barely move out of bed. The kids needs were the only thing keeping me functioning in a day. At Christmas my 2 older kids came home from college for break and both quickly pointed out to me that there was something not right about me. Both acted concerned. Sitting with my 19 year old daughter one night remembering and talking about my mom-I lost it (the top blew off)!! I started crying uncontrollably0then I said it…”I’m so depressed!”.

    It was horrible. But, that was it, I put it out there (and I think scared her). Now, I had to deal with it. It took me a good 10 days of pure-not go anywhere, barely get up and get dressed, cry at the drop of a hat time. But now I am finding my way back. I have talked to my older kids, my husband and confided in a dear friend. I am reading my Bible each day and praying alone and with the family again, I am walking and trying to be healthy and I am trying to get out at least twice per week. So, I guess what I am trying to say is that I relate with you and I think your 5 steps are right on target!!

    Thank you again! God Bless.

    1. Cristan, you have had a LOT to deal with!! (((hugs))) I’m sorry for all the struggles…but I’m so glad you are talking about it now and doing a bit better. Sometimes it is so hard just to do something so simple…hang in there!! You’re doing awesome!! Thanks for chiming in…

  3. I have struggled with depression in the past and took medication to help me because I was at a point of not dealing with anything without crying and feeling defeated. I withdrew from everyone and stopped doing the things that I normally loved to do. Medication helped me to begin the dealing process. The five steps that you listed are perfect. I had to do those to survive, even on the medication. After several years we moved and I went to a new OB/GYN who thought that my depression might be hormone related. I did an assessment and began a trial run with biodentical hormones and within a year I was weaned off of my antidepressants. I am doing great now…back to normal. I praise God for helping me through this and for the lessons that I have learned through it. I am also thankful for the healing that I have received through my hormone replacement. I still follow the five steps that you list to deal with stressful situations. Why not? It works.

    1. Praise the Lord! I am sol glad to hear that it can be hormones I have been diagnosed as bipolar. It is nice to know that it could be something as simple as hormones. With the Lord’s help this is something I can look into.

    2. Kimberly, I’m with you — these things help regardless of where you are in your day-to-day life, whether you struggle with depression or not! I’m so glad for you that you are doing well and have found what works for you!! Our bodies are created so uniquely and individually that it is often helpful to hear from many different folks on what works and doesn’t. I’m glad these tips are ones that proven to be helpful for you also!! Thanks for commenting…

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